"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MOTIVATORS for self improvement-- my suggestions

Alphathree

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We're all really here to improve ourselves.

I've tried a lot of things: affirmations, NLP, lists of goals, and so on.

But through all of that, do you know what I find is THE most effective motivator?

Find a photo of an amazing woman. Not some supermodel. Someone whom you BELIEVE would be perfect for you in every way--hot, intelligent, high status, loving, whatever combination it is.

Put that photo as your desktop wallpaper. You'll see it every day.

Think to yourself, "would I be with me if I were her?"

The answer might come back "no." If it does, it'll also have a "why".

Maybe you think you're too short, too skinny, too fat, too bald, too boring, too broke. Maybe your life isn't very interesting.

Whatever it is, pick something, and improve it. Keep looking at that picture and keep asking yourself what it is about yourself you still need to improve.

Personally, I have a serious case of one-itis for Shania Twain, but I use it in a positive way, as explained above.

This is my motivator:

Motivator

Please don't make this thread about my choice of picture, lol. Take the deeper message, whatever it is for you.

(This strategy is adapted from Think and Grow Rich.)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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^good tip

i have that book since last summer, but haven't read it yet...i'll try that anyway
 

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Nice post. I've done exactly the same thing myself, except my motivational lady is Mischa Barton.

Looking at pictures like this inspires me to get off my a$$ and go make something of myself. I don't want to be looking upto women like this; I want to be equal!
 

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Originally posted by Jariel
Nice post. I've done exactly the same thing myself, except my motivational lady is Mischa Barton.

Looking at pictures like this inspires me to get off my a$$ and go make something of myself. I don't want to be looking upto women like this; I want to be equal!
damn sexy eyes :cool:
 

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My motivator is myself....

...one day.. i hope that I'll be worthy enough to f*ck myself:D


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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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