"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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MOTIVATORS for self improvement-- my suggestions

Alphathree

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We're all really here to improve ourselves.

I've tried a lot of things: affirmations, NLP, lists of goals, and so on.

But through all of that, do you know what I find is THE most effective motivator?

Find a photo of an amazing woman. Not some supermodel. Someone whom you BELIEVE would be perfect for you in every way--hot, intelligent, high status, loving, whatever combination it is.

Put that photo as your desktop wallpaper. You'll see it every day.

Think to yourself, "would I be with me if I were her?"

The answer might come back "no." If it does, it'll also have a "why".

Maybe you think you're too short, too skinny, too fat, too bald, too boring, too broke. Maybe your life isn't very interesting.

Whatever it is, pick something, and improve it. Keep looking at that picture and keep asking yourself what it is about yourself you still need to improve.

Personally, I have a serious case of one-itis for Shania Twain, but I use it in a positive way, as explained above.

This is my motivator:

Motivator

Please don't make this thread about my choice of picture, lol. Take the deeper message, whatever it is for you.

(This strategy is adapted from Think and Grow Rich.)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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^good tip

i have that book since last summer, but haven't read it yet...i'll try that anyway
 

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Nice post. I've done exactly the same thing myself, except my motivational lady is Mischa Barton.

Looking at pictures like this inspires me to get off my a$$ and go make something of myself. I don't want to be looking upto women like this; I want to be equal!
 

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Originally posted by Jariel
Nice post. I've done exactly the same thing myself, except my motivational lady is Mischa Barton.

Looking at pictures like this inspires me to get off my a$$ and go make something of myself. I don't want to be looking upto women like this; I want to be equal!
damn sexy eyes :cool:
 

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My motivator is myself....

...one day.. i hope that I'll be worthy enough to f*ck myself:D


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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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