"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MOTIVATORS for self improvement-- my suggestions

Alphathree

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We're all really here to improve ourselves.

I've tried a lot of things: affirmations, NLP, lists of goals, and so on.

But through all of that, do you know what I find is THE most effective motivator?

Find a photo of an amazing woman. Not some supermodel. Someone whom you BELIEVE would be perfect for you in every way--hot, intelligent, high status, loving, whatever combination it is.

Put that photo as your desktop wallpaper. You'll see it every day.

Think to yourself, "would I be with me if I were her?"

The answer might come back "no." If it does, it'll also have a "why".

Maybe you think you're too short, too skinny, too fat, too bald, too boring, too broke. Maybe your life isn't very interesting.

Whatever it is, pick something, and improve it. Keep looking at that picture and keep asking yourself what it is about yourself you still need to improve.

Personally, I have a serious case of one-itis for Shania Twain, but I use it in a positive way, as explained above.

This is my motivator:

Motivator

Please don't make this thread about my choice of picture, lol. Take the deeper message, whatever it is for you.

(This strategy is adapted from Think and Grow Rich.)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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^good tip

i have that book since last summer, but haven't read it yet...i'll try that anyway
 

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Nice post. I've done exactly the same thing myself, except my motivational lady is Mischa Barton.

Looking at pictures like this inspires me to get off my a$$ and go make something of myself. I don't want to be looking upto women like this; I want to be equal!
 

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Originally posted by Jariel
Nice post. I've done exactly the same thing myself, except my motivational lady is Mischa Barton.

Looking at pictures like this inspires me to get off my a$$ and go make something of myself. I don't want to be looking upto women like this; I want to be equal!
damn sexy eyes :cool:
 

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My motivator is myself....

...one day.. i hope that I'll be worthy enough to f*ck myself:D


Laterz...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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