"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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After taking a little break from DJing this summer I came back at it yesterday.

I went to the mall with a friend. He works there and he knows a bunch of people that work there, mainly girls...

I was there and for some reason I couldn't
speak up very much. I was around a bunch of people I didn't know, and they were talking about stuff that I didn't find interesting to comment or talk about.

I dunno. I felt real weird. Like, my mouth just wouldn't open up, and usually I've got a lot to say. how do you fix this type of thing?

I'm probably getting all insecure or something.. besides, the dude I was with was real goofy. He talked up the girls and what not, but he was just goofy, and made me feel uncomfortable after a while...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How do you mean 'taking a break from DJ-ing'?
Are there no cute girls to chat up during summer? I think being a real DJ or at least a real MAN means being a MAN all the time. You will attract girls by your attitude while being yourself.
You shouldn't have to put on an act. This way you will not have to take a break.

The idea you have about DJ-ing and taking a break from it, may cause your mind to think you are a little 'out' of it and thus making you a bit insecure.
 

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Ia gree, it shouldbe naturla. Don't act man, make DJing a part of you.

If I think about it: If i was thrown into a group of guys and girls I didn't know..it might be alil uncomfortable.
You shoulda done somethign extreme to get some attention and spark a convo witha few of the girls though.
Ex: "My name is Dimebag and I have an 18-inch penis. Around. Think aobut it."[thanks to the great Stiffler]
K i dunno, it hoguht it was funny. If you give off a good vibe, girls would probably laugh :)
 
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By break I mean, I've been pretty busy and sh*t and so no time for scouting potential ONSs or STRs or LTRs.

I need to get back in the game for good though. Chatting up women everywhere I go is supposed to be second nature to me, I've just been out of it for a second.

I've been stressed out about a lot of bullsh*t that's been going on in my life, along with a new job, and that takes time adjustments and what not.
 

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In that case: don't worry about it. It'll come back..
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It's just rust. Give yourself a little time and it'll come back.
 

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Originally posted by crazykid
It's just rust. Give yourself a little time and it'll come back.
Yup, just don't kick yourself and keep up the work
 
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Well, obviously you wern't DJing it since you lost it. You need to make sure what you call "DJ" is your personality. Not your day job. YOU must become the DJ. you dont ACT like the DJ.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I recently read a gunwitch post that covered your problem.

It theorized that you have to be doing it day in day out to be comfortable with it, if you have a break you are not used to "djing" and therefore forgot what you have to do.
 

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Originally posted by jonny football hero
I recently read a gunwitch post that covered your problem.

It theorized that you have to be doing it day in day out to be comfortable with it, if you have a break you are not used to "djing" and therefore forgot what you have to do.
You don't have to do things day in and day out to get comfortable with it. If you take a break, sometimes that's for the better so you don't burn yourself out.
 

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Originally posted by crazykid
You don't have to do things day in and day out to get comfortable with it. If you take a break, sometimes that's for the better so you don't burn yourself out.
True. But conversly, if you take a break it takes the edge off, in this case, you "game".
 
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