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Most Women Under 30 Have Slept with 70 Men or More ... While the Average Guy Gets Laid Once Every Year

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Ya gotta put yourself out there to be noticed, be this in the realm of dating and mating, or anything else in life. Our current zeitgeist is one in which a mantra which goes something like:
"The System f-cked me over, and The Evil Overlords who rule this planet must be cast into The Lake Of Fire, BEFORE I make moves of my own"

Has been mistaken for an unassiable truth though. Not surprisingly, most folks just end up remaining miserable as a result
 

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Women find most men unatractive. Most Women surely could have endless sfx with different men as often as they want. However, most women don’t get horny for 80% of men.
 

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So while men are biologically primed to pursue volume, women are wired to be highly selective, because sex carries far more potential cost like pregnancy, vulnerability during gestation, social judgment, long-term impact on pair-bonding, and reduced value in the mating market. Evolution shaped women to filter for the highest-value genes and best provisioning potential, not to sleep with a new guy every 10 weeks for 15 years straight.

Obviously they are outliers, but women cluster around top-tier men, not average guys who know how to “spit game.” The average attractive woman isn’t cycling through 70 partners; she’s navigating a strategy that balances sexual opportunity with long-term security, often unconsciously. This is the essence of hypergamy: seeking to mate upward, whether genetically, socially, or financially.
I would agree, if we were talking about the 1950s, Back then women could not sleep around, they were virgins before marriage, society would shame women if had more the one partner in their lifetime.

I would also agree if we were talking about women over 30. Once a women turns 30, then she is what you described,; highly selective, social judgement, long term impact pair bonding.

But if she is under 30 and hot? No, I can’t agree, She will sleep with as many Alpha men as possible to (a) get it out of her system (b) hopefully get pregnant by one of them. In 2025, women don’t care about “pair bonding“ or “vulnerability during gestation” before 30. They are more like ”this guy is tall / has money, ok, I’ll give him my body In hopes of having children or getting rich”. Hot women know their power is in their 20s, they are not going to sit back and let time expire, They are going to sleep with as many rich Alpha men as possible.

You don’t think Sydney Sweeney slept with Tom Brady and Orlando Bloom at Jeff Bezos wedding? She just showed up because she ”loves weddings”? This women gets naked in front a crew of 30 and the whole world, but when it comes to a 6’4 multi millionaire Champion athlete, she can control herself.

Come on
 

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I would agree, if we were talking about the 1950s, Back then women could not sleep around, they were virgins before marriage, society would shame women if had more the one partner in their lifetime.

I would also agree if we were talking about women over 30. Once a women turns 30, then she is what you described,; highly selective, social judgement, long term impact pair bonding.

But if she is under 30 and hot? No, I can’t agree, She will sleep with as many Alpha men as possible to (a) get it out of her system (b) hopefully get pregnant by one of them. In 2025, women don’t care about “pair bonding“ or “vulnerability during gestation” before 30. They are more like ”this guy is tall / has money, ok, I’ll give him my body In hopes of having children or getting rich”. Hot women know their power is in their 20s, they are not going to sit back and let time expire, They are going to sleep with as many rich Alpha men as possible.

You don’t think Sydney Sweeney slept with Tom Brady and Orlando Bloom at Jeff Bezos wedding? She just showed up because she ”loves weddings”? This women gets naked in front a crew of 30 and the whole world, but when it comes to a 6’4 multi millionaire Champion athlete, she can control herself.

Come on
I am sure if you’re presenting a theory or just venting, but your argument is full with unproven assumptions and contradictions. For example, you say women under 30 “sleep with as many Alpha men as possible”, but isn’t that still highly selective? You are saying women filter for elite traits (money, height, fame), which reinforces hypergamy, but this is against casual promiscuity. If younger women were truly having dozens of partners, that would contradict your own claim that they’re only giving access to a small, elite tier of men; you can’t be both highly selective and racking up 70 partners.

There are several other shaky assumptions in your post that I don’t have time to fully elaborate, like your dismissal of primal behavioral wiring, human motivational complexity, and the strange assumption that Sydney Sweeney slept with two famous people simply because she attended a wedding. But overall, your “theories” are just projections built on personal bias.
 
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You don’t think Sydney Sweeney slept with Tom Brady and Orlando Bloom at Jeff Bezos wedding? She just showed up because she ”loves weddings”? This women gets naked in front a crew of 30 and the whole world, but when it comes to a 6’4 multi millionaire Champion athlete, she can control herself.
the strange assumption that Sydney Sweeney slept with two famous people simply because she attended a wedding.
There's a good chance that she had sex with at least one of them, if not both at the Bezos wedding.

She was spotted walking in public in Italy with both of them.

Few people know anything about that right now. It's unlikely that any SoSuave forum posters know about Sydney Sweeney's sex this past weekend.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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There's a good chance that she had sex with at least one of them, if not both at the Bezos wedding.

She was spotted walking in public in Italy with both of them.

Few people know anything about that right now. It's unlikely that any SoSuave forum posters know about Sydney Sweeney's sex this past weekend.
You can’t prove they had sex any more than I can prove they didn’t. When we start reinforcing arguments with assumptions instead of facts, like what @BadBoy89 is doing, we’re just projecting, not reasoning. And remember, we’re supposed to be the rational, logical ones. This is the picture if no one has seen it with the 3 of them:

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That said, it does look like she’s gearing up to ride the **** carousel, which is not surprising after calling off her engagement to billionaire Jonathan Davino. She was linked to Glen Powell, and now to Tom Brady and Orlando Bloom. That kind of rebound behaviour is pretty common after a breakup; Shakira did something similar after her divorce.

But even if that’s the case, it still doesn’t prove anything about women in general and what OP is claiming, like the idea that they don’t care about long-term bonding, social judgment, pregnancy vulnerability, or that they’re all racking up 70 bodies before 30 with all alpha males. It is just whatever fits his narrative.
 
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You can’t prove they had sex any more than I can prove they didn’t. When we start reinforcing arguments with assumptions instead of facts, like what @BadBoy89 is doing, we’re just projecting, not reasoning. And remember, we’re supposed to be the rational, logical ones. This is the picture if no one has seen it with the 3 of them:

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That said, it does look like she’s gearing up to ride the **** carousel, which is not surprising after calling off her engagement to billionaire Jonathan Davino. She was linked to Glen Powell, and now to Tom Brady and Orlando Bloom. That kind of rebound behaviour is pretty common after a breakup; Shakira did something similar after her divorce.

But even if that’s the case, it still doesn’t prove anything about women in general and what OP is claiming, like the idea that they don’t care about long-term bonding, social judgment, pregnancy vulnerability, or that they’re all racking up 70 bodies before 30 with all alpha males. It is just whatever fits his narrative.
Sydney Sweeney and Tom Brady were seen dancing together late in the night at a wedding reception. That is often a prelude to sex after a wedding reception. There are other reports that Brady danced with multiple women too.

Again, few people know what really happened.

The picture walking with Tom Brady and Orlando Bloom has unusual body language. Everyone seems separate and distant in it.

In going back to the original premise of the thread, I don't think women having sex with 70 men by age 30 is very common. It's possible for women to do because it is easy for them to get sex.

Female fussiness and sex exclusivity windows usually get in the way of having that become reality by age 30.

Most women also don't reach sex with 70 men by age 45 either.
 

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You can’t prove they had sex any more than I can prove they didn’t. When we start reinforcing arguments with assumptions instead of facts, like what @BadBoy89 is doing, we’re just projecting, not reasoning. And remember, we’re supposed to be the rational, logical ones. This is the picture if no one has seen it with the 3 of them:
Who said we reinforcing arguments with assumptions instead of facts and reasoning? Our reasoning that that she did is just as logical as your reasoning that she didn’t. Its 50 / 50.

That said, it does look like she’s gearing up to ride the **** carousel, which is not surprising after calling off her engagement to billionaire Jonathan Davino. She was linked to Glen Powell, and now to Tom Brady and Orlando Bloom. That kind of rebound behaviour is pretty common after a breakup; Shakira did something similar after her divorce.
Agree

But even if that’s the case, it still doesn’t prove anything about women in general and what OP is claiming, like the idea that they don’t care about long-term bonding, social judgment, pregnancy vulnerability, or that they’re all racking up 70 bodies before 30 with all alpha males. It is just whatever fits his narrative.
I agree with above, when a woman turns 30, We are not saying all women hit 70 bodies before 30, we are saying the hot ones do.

The narrative Sosuave is saying is:

Sydney Sweeney is the hottest actress now coveted by the richest most powerful people in the world, She has not hit 70 bodies by 30.
Men on Sosuave who society does not know, have no power, yet are tall, dress well, talk well, have hit 100+ bodies with hot women by 30.

All we are saying is, if one is true, the other is true, That is logical, reasonable, and rational thinking.
 

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@BadBoy89 this is such a weird hill for you to die on...
Who said it’s weird and I’m dying on a hill? Another assumption because you don’t like it.

Any hot girl would make your head spin bro.
 

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I am sure if you’re presenting a theory or just venting, but your argument is full with unproven assumptions and contradictions. For example, you say women under 30 “sleep with as many Alpha men as possible”, but isn’t that still highly selective? You are saying women filter for elite traits (money, height, fame), which reinforces hypergamy, but this is against casual promiscuity. If younger women were truly having dozens of partners, that would contradict your own claim that they’re only giving access to a small, elite tier of men; you can’t be both highly selective and racking up 70 partners.
There is no correlation being selective and having a lot of partners. Thats like saying if a man is selective about the type of home he owns, he can’t own alot of homes,

Sydney Sweeney has several A list men around her at Jeff Bezos wedding, talking to her, chatting her up, dancing with her. I’m not saying she did them all, but the options were around her all in 1 night. Now imagine if she put some effort into it, how many partners she could get in a week, let alone a month?

A women can be selective, and still sleep with a lot of elite upper tier men. One thing has nothing to do with other. Being selective has nothing to do with sleeping around.

There are several other shaky assumptions in your post that I don’t have time to fully elaborate,
Thats like saying “You’re wrong.” I ask “Why?” You say “I don’t have time to explain it.”

Rock on.

like your dismissal of primal behavioral wiring, human motivational complexity, and the strange assumption that Sydney Sweeney slept with two famous people simply because she attended a wedding. But overall, your “theories” are just projections built on personal bias.
Overall, you are defending women because you don’t want to believe what they are capable of. It will shatter your fantasy of their pure innocent behaviour. You are exhibiting white knight behavior.

My theories are projections built on personal basis, yet your theories are correct? That’s an imposing assumption. Any (hot) women will make your head spin when make imposing statements.

Im starting to think there are a lot of white knights on Sosuave.
 

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There's a good chance that she had sex with at least one of them, if not both at the Bezos wedding.

She was spotted walking in public in Italy with both of them.
+1. Good post.
 

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Who said it’s weird and I’m dying on a hill? Another assumption because you don’t like it.

Any hot girl would make your head spin bro.
There is not a single person who agrees with you here, including one with much more life experience than you, evidently.

The fact that you're so adamant about your logic when it's so deeply flawed is honestly pretty astounding, coming from somebody with an otherwise positive track record on this forum.

Because you're so annoyingly ridiculous, seeking to continue dying on this hill in my promo post, I will address the stupidity of your thought process here:
  • I've slept with 101 women
  • Most men would consider a majority of them quite hot
Somehow, the conclusion you've managed to draw is that they must not be hot, because if they were, they would be wh*res running up a 70+ body count pre-30. Therefore, for my statement that not all women are wh*res to be true, I must be banging uglies, or women with 70+ body counts.

You apparently cannot seem to comprehend that:
  • Not all women who CAN f*** every guy they run into, WANT to f*** every guy they run into
  • Some of these women I've f***ed might have high body counts, some might not, but me having f***ed them does not automatically give them a high body count
  • As stated by other posters, MOST women will go from relationship to relationship, as they understand how society devalues women with higher body counts, due to that being ingrained in human history that a more promiscuous woman often meant less certainty about the father of a child
Have you ever gone fishing?

There are sharks in the water. That does not mean that every fish caught will be a shark. It also does not mean MOST fish caught will be sharks. We understand that outliers exist. We also understand that outliers are called OUTLIERS because they do not make up the MAJORITY.

We understand this. Somehow, you don't.

Genuinely, I hope I was finally able to communicate this in a way that your brain can decipher it. Because it seems that no matter what other posters have said on this matter, you pick and choose @SW15 's anecdote specific to HIS OPINION, BASED ON A PICTURE that Sydney Sweenery MIGHT be "preparing to ride the carousel" to back up your claim.

I don't know who hurt you, but hopefully, you're eventually able to come back to reality, rather than the dystopian dating landscape you seem to currently exist within.
 
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Who said we reinforcing arguments with assumptions instead of facts and reasoning? Our reasoning that that she did is just as logical as your reasoning that she didn’t. Its 50 / 50.
You were the one who brought up Sydney Sweeney as “evidence” to support the claim that hot women rack up 70 bodies by age 30, but I said from the start that we shouldn’t treat assumptions as evidence, because the default state is that nothing happened unless it’s shown otherwise. You brought her up to prove something — I didn’t — and again, this isn’t logical reasoning; it’s just pushing your assumptions without being accountable for backing them up. Unless your name is Sydney Sweeney or you have credible proof, it’s just speculation, and it is not 50/50 because the burden of proof lies with the person making the claim, which is you.


I agree with above, when a woman turns 30, We are not saying all women hit 70 bodies before 30, we are saying the hot ones do.

The narrative Sosuave is saying is:

Sydney Sweeney is the hottest actress now coveted by the richest most powerful people in the world, She has not hit 70 bodies by 30.
Men on Sosuave who society does not know, have no power, yet are tall, dress well, talk well, have hit 100+ bodies with hot women by 30.

All we are saying is, if one is true, the other is true, That is logical, reasonable, and rational thinking.
The men in SoSuave’s comparison is dead wrong. Men build high numbers through quantity through constant approaches and low selectivity. Women don’t operate that way; they’re the choosers, not the chasers. Claiming a man’s “100+ hot girls by 30” equals a woman’s “70 high-status men by 30” ignores fundamental differences in mating strategies. You’re treating two completely different games as if they’re the same and that’s just plain wrong.

There is no correlation being selective and having a lot of partners. Thats like saying if a man is selective about the type of home he owns, he can’t own alot of homes,
Yes, if a man is picky and “buying” escorts like houses, he can have many partners because the escort doesn’t choose the client. However, that dynamic doesn’t apply when women are the selectors. Your analogy doesn’t work because, unlike buying homes where you can pick and own many, women—the “homes” in your analogy—choose their partners, so selectivity naturally limits both the number and duration of their relationships.
Sydney Sweeney has several A list men around her at Jeff Bezos wedding, talking to her, chatting her up, dancing with her. I’m not saying she did them all, but the options were around her all in 1 night. Now imagine if she put some effort into it, how many partners she could get in a week, let alone a month?

A women can be selective, and still sleep with a lot of elite upper tier men. One thing has nothing to do with other. Being selective has nothing to do with sleeping around.
You think women behave like men, like, “If I were Sydney Sweeney, I’d do this”, but the truth is, the sexes aren’t equal. Biology and social reality shape fundamentally different mating behaviors. I already explained why women are more selective and explained the various factors that make their mating strategies and biological factors different than men. If you don’t get it, that’s on you.

Overall, you are defending women because you don’t want to believe what they are capable of. It will shatter your fantasy of their pure innocent behaviour. You are exhibiting white knight behavior.

My theories are projections built on personal basis, yet your theories are correct? That’s an imposing assumption. Any (hot) women will make your head spin when make imposing statements.

Im starting to think there are a lot of white knights on Sosuave.
And there it is, the personal attack. Another assumption, right on cue. I guess you're Clockwerk50 now?

As for the “theory” part: the difference is I grounded my points in biology, evolutionary psychology, and observable patterns, you’re just projecting what you think hot women are doing without evidence. That’s not theory, it’s fantasy.

TL;DR – OP thinks hot women behave like men, in which if a handsome man has options and acts on them, then a hot woman must do the same. But that’s just projection. He imagines what he’d do if he were a hot woman (sleep around), ignoring biology, psychology, and social factors. Having 70 partners under 30 is a rare outlier because women’s behavior is shaped by selectivity and long-term bonding.

PS: Sydney Sweeney is not hot.
 

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Sydney Sweeney and Tom Brady were seen dancing together late in the night at a wedding reception. That is often a prelude to sex after a wedding reception. There are other reports that Brady danced with multiple women too.

Again, few people know what really happened.

The picture walking with Tom Brady and Orlando Bloom has unusual body language. Everyone seems separate and distant in it.

In going back to the original premise of the thread, I don't think women having sex with 70 men by age 30 is very common. It's possible for women to do because it is easy for them to get sex.

Female fussiness and sex exclusivity windows usually get in the way of having that become reality by age 30.

Most women also don't reach sex with 70 men by age 45 either.
From the little information we have, if Brady didn’t smash that night, just like at a nightclub, Sweeney might be lukewarm about him.

Also, this seems like social circle game: all the men and women are in the same circle, so the woman will reciprocate to the man she’s most attracted to, and they’ll smash as long as he doesn’t fumble. It looks like Sweeney’s friends were out on the walk as well so Brady will have a chance to smash them as well lol

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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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TL;DR – OP thinks hot women behave like men, in which if a handsome man has options and acts on them, then a hot woman must do the same. But that’s just projection. He imagines what he’d do if he were a hot woman (sleep around), ignoring biology, psychology, and social factors. Having 70 partners under 30 is a rare outlier because women’s behavior is shaped by selectivity and long-term bonding.
OK, so you are saying that a good looking man can sleep with 100+ hot women by time he is 30; no questions asked.
But a hot women coveted by the rich, the powerful, the athletes, the actors, the men who have their hands on the nuclear button, will not sleep with these men or men of the like because of her selectively and long-term bonding?

I don't know. I don't think a hot women under 30 could resist the power of the tall rich Alpha man because she is thinking about "long term bonding", but hey, I'm not Brad Pitt.

Remember that scene in Eyes Wide Shut when Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise were arguing about her cheating and Tom Cruise said "women don't think that way." And Nicole Kidman "If you men only knew" She then continued "Remember that tall handsome sailor we saw at the dinner party. I would have given up everything, my husband, my child, my life, just for ONE night with him." He was shocked his hot wife said that.

PS: Sydney Sweeney is not hot.
Who is hot?
 

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OK, so you are saying that a good looking man can sleep with 100+ hot women by time he is 30; no questions asked.
But a hot women coveted by the rich, the powerful, the athletes, the actors, the men who have their hands on the nuclear button, will not sleep with these men or men of the like because of her selectively and long-term bonding?

I don't know. I don't think a hot women under 30 could resist the power of the tall rich Alpha man because she is thinking about "long term bonding", but hey, I'm not Brad Pitt.

Remember that scene in Eyes Wide Shut when Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise were arguing about her cheating and Tom Cruise said "women don't think that way." And Nicole Kidman "If you men only knew" She then continued "Remember that tall handsome sailor we saw at the dinner party. I would have given up everything, my husband, my child, my life, just for ONE night with him." He was shocked his hot wife said that.



Who is hot?
No, no, no. Come on back.

You derailed my thread with this unrelated discussion on 3 separate occasions, even when I told you to take the conversation elsewhere.

Don't get shy now that I gave you the attention you wanted.
 

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Eyes Wide Shut is about depraved occultists getting off and Stanley Kubrick, the GOAT filmmaker who made, it was snuffed for doing so. Keep in mind this is the frame of reference Badboy brought up. Those people (in the film) are sick.
 

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Eyes Wide Shut is about depraved occultists getting off and Stanley Kubrick, the GOAT filmmaker who made, it was snuffed for doing so. Keep in mind this is the frame of reference Badboy brought up. Those people (in the film) are sick.
I don’t get it and I haven’t watched the movie. Is this like Epstein’s island?
 

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I don’t get it and I haven’t watched the movie. Is this like Epstein’s island?
Think Esptein's Island combined with spirit cooking and hosted by the richest people in the world (off the books)
 
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