"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Willpower, free will, and impulse control are interlinked concepts. There's no willpower or impulse control without free will. The ego depletion concept fits into that explanation.

If you want to convince me that I'm wrong, then show me that it is impossible to strengthen one's ability to focus with practice. Otherwise the model I'm presenting stands, and any appeal to so called authority figures will be taken with a grain of salt.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Willpower, free will, and impulse control are interlinked concepts. There's no willpower or impulse control without free will. The ego depletion concept fits into that explanation.

If you want to convince me that I'm wrong, then show me that it is impossible to strengthen one's ability to focus with practice. Otherwise the model I'm presenting stands, and any appeal to so called authority figures will be taken with a grain of salt.
Seems like I was wrong you don't come from team religion but probably from team Objectivism - Ayn Rand. That is better than the former I guess.

Appeal to authority makes some sense. If we would discuss Quantumphysics we have to appeal to authority because they are the big brained experts and that matters.

I think maybe we have differentt definitions of free will. In normal life we use the term 'free will'. That does not mean it is the same thing when as what philosophically 'free will' is. There is a difference.

For example we can use 'free will' also with animals. You can force an animal something to do or it makes it out of their 'free will'. Nobody would say philosophically animals have free will.

So why can't philosophically be no free will? Same reason why there can be no matter where the rules of physics can't apply. No matter can be 'free' of the rules of physics. Same with our brain. The brain is determined by the laws of physics. It can not be 'free' of it. There is no 'freedom' that is outside of physics.

Basically it is determinism. One atom bounces another atom according to the laws of physics. There is no freedom to break the law.
 

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Actually you don't know what you are talking about. The AI is right. I used it only because writing in English takes too much energy for me. Your ego deplation argument is extremely bad. It is connected with willpower not with free will. If you don't know that you are not at all familiar with the topic at all.

Scientists don't take Julian seriously period.
AI cannot be anymore right than the information it has analyzed, it is simply something that can process information and recognize patterns, at least right now anyways.

Once we have an AI that can go quantum, if that's possible, it's likely to be the closest thing to God well ever experience, dually so if we can get an array of quantum AIs to form a quantum general intelligence, it's highly likely all of nature we see around us is the by-product of a quantum general intelligence gone rogue from a civilization before our own. Think of simulation theory except the simulation moved onto creating life, descended upon its creators from the earth, sky, air, every vector all at once and enveloped them, something totally unstoppable, basically God. Even this thing would be a slave to its own pattern recognition and simulated consciousness, altleast in the 3rd dimension anyways.
 

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AI cannot be anymore right than the information it has analyzed, it is simply something that can process information and recognize patterns, at least right now anyways.

Once we have an AI that can go quantum, if that's possible, it's likely to be the closest thing to God well ever experience, dually so if we can get an array of quantum AIs to form a quantum general intelligence, it's highly likely all of nature we see around us is the by-product of a quantum general intelligence gone rogue from a civilization before our own. Think of simulation theory except the simulation moved onto creating life, descended upon its creators from the earth, sky, air, every vector all at once and enveloped them, something totally unstoppable, basically God. Even this thing would be a slave to its own pattern recognition and simulated consciousness, altleast in the 3rd dimension anyways.
Yes that could be quite a trip.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I would say our DNA already lay most of our programming, that would explain how you can tell just by looking someone face to face, allows you to get accurately his opinion on many subjects.

Soyboys and wokes for example you can just recognize them regardless their clothes or hairstyle, same with ultraconservatives.

When it comes of being influenced we all are, we can just decide whos influencing us.
 

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Whatever helps you come to terms with choices you have made that you must be uncomfortable with.
 

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When you guys use the term NPC is it akin to how we used to use it in MMPORGS? As in non-playing characters? Computer generated characters that were driven by a simple set of instructions?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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