"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
More Tinder feedback please
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Igetit!
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Hmmm....
I read over the conversations you had with these Tinder chicks. You said you've been trying to build up more rappaport with them,but things still seem to be falling apart when you go for the date/number. I was trying to think of a delicate way to put this,but....I....I just can't simply find one.
Your conversations are...well.....HORSESH1T. Just look at the topics you discuss.....
Ariel/"My little mermaid"
Serial killers
Pedophiles
getting kidnapped
being homeless on the streets
Dogs/sheep dogs/australian shephards. You talk about how smart they are and how they have great attitudes.
you even mentioned possibly meeting.....the DOG.
You need to learn how to flirt better. It's not that your topics are horrible (well,not all),you just need to get more ATTRACT based conversation. All you stuff is like comfort.
I don't do tinder,but do online dating,like Cupid. I just get to the point....like,I'll ask a chick out in the FIRST message. Do I expect her to just simply say yes? Course not,but that NOT THE PURPOSE of me asking her out from jump....it's to get a conversation going where us going out is THE TOPIC OF DISCUSSION. Then me flirting doesn't seem out of the blue because that's part of the subject matter.
Like I'll ask a girl out,then I'll mention how near year's eve is bout to show up and how I'm gonna need someone to hug and kiss on while ringing in the new year...with a smiley face with a sly grin. You got to get the ATTRACT based convo going FIRST,then you go to comfort later. You're all over the place.....pedophiles,kidnapping,being homeless,meeting people's pets,etc,etc.
Stop being around the bush,and get to the point. And just ask when is she gonna "hang out" with you,I'd drop the "coffee" line,you can decide on what the "activity" will be after she agree.
You just need to flirt more and let the TWO OF YOU MEETING be the main subject instead of going all over the place with all these different random convos.
Jetleg
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Tinder is a nice way of getting flaked and paying for random chicks without getting anything. if you want to waste your time and money go to a casino or something.
Listen very carefully, you're ready?
Step 1: Delete the app
Step 2: Go the a Gym, get ripped.
Step 3: Come back to real life. you know, where girls are not doing their stupid duck face sh1t and photoshop every picture so they look like they are 9 when in reallity they are fat wh0res who got their attiude so wrong they wont even look at the a an average good looking guy because they get so much virtual attention.
Step 4: What is tinder?
sazc
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I love this site
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I expect nothing of these h0ez.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.