"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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More party pix (no, they don't stop)

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Here's to last night. I'll do a side commentary along with some of them.


I don't know what Jen is doing in the right corner...
http://www.jbspencer.com/jen.jpg

Group shot... DJ looks hot down there in the left corner... and if my arms ever get as big as Nick's I'll die happy.
http://www.jbspencer.com/group2.jpg

Brandy...
http://www.jbspencer.com/branjer.jpg

I don't remember who this person was or what we talked about. The only thing I do remember is grabbing her boobs after the picture was taken.
http://www.jbspencer.com/dunno.jpg

Just noticed my hand is getting a little territorial on the right...
http://www.jbspencer.com/branjer2.jpg

Punk rock, anyone?
http://www.jbspencer.com/another.jpg

Yum. Just.. yum (no, her name isn't Yum). :p
http://www.jbspencer.com/dj.jpg

As we all know, racism is not allowed on this forum. However, it's up to you on how you view this picture of Nick being forced to sleep on the floor with the dog (at least I gave him a sleeping bag!)
http://www.jbspencer.com/nick.jpg
(this next one isn't from last night, but it's of Nick also - when we get drunk we do some weird sh*t)
http://www.jbspencer.com/nickhat.jpg
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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looks like a lot of good times and damn you seem to drink as much as I do.

cheers
 

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you look drunker than a bum diablo:) anyway, what about handing me jen's number? i swear, she's one of the hottest girls i ever seen in my whole life!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Looks like a good time.

But I don't see any WOMEN in the last couple pictures back at the apartment...what gives? :D
 

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Weird that Nick slept on the floor, seeing as he could probably kill anyone there :)
 

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Originally posted by squirrels
But I don't see any WOMEN in the last couple pictures back at the apartment...what gives? :D
Unfortunately I'm still with the parents...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Diablo i have to give you alot of props, because you are 100% shear evidence that looks do not matter. Average looks with hot girls = good personality, social proof, or lots of money.

Congratulations to you!
 

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Originally posted by tristan22
Diablo i have to give you alot of props, because you are 100% shear evidence that looks do not matter. Average looks with hot girls = good personality, social proof, or lots of money.

Congratulations to you!
that's a very nice thing to say:rolleyes:
 

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I don't care if it's nice or not, it's the truth. Not everyone is blessed with good looks. It's apparent he has something positive to offer or else he wouldn't be banging hot chicks.
 
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