"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Discussion forum is getting ridiculously over populated right now and the topics are turning around so fast it's hard to keep up and almost impossible to continue any single discussion.

If it could be split into a series of separate forums it might help disperse the traffic.

One idea I had is to create a specific help forum where users can post questions and receive answers on various dilemmas, while the discussion forum can continue to be used for general DJ related discussions.

Maybe we can have some kind of Field Report forum too, where the bootcamp journals, field and lay reports, and various autobiographical experiences can go.

I have no clue how difficult it is to add or alter the forums, so it may not be plausible, but it's just an idea.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Or maybe people should learn to use the Bible and the Search features so they don't HAVE to post a new thread every time. ;)
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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i like the forum like this, i would rather it move to fast so i miss some posts (and if its a specific one oyu posted in you cna look at your posts to find it again) rather then move slow so i have to look at the same old post for 2 weeks.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Giovanni Casanova

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Originally posted by Jariel
I was hoping for a bigger font, but nevermind.
MY FONT IS ENORMOUS.
 

Vincent

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
MY FONT IS ENORMOUS.
MY FONT IS BOLD

edit:AND RED
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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i have font envy... :(
 
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