Just found the girlfriend of a friend on a dating site, where she just registered today. As far as I know, she is still his girlfriend, and although all her data there arent accurate, it is her picture. I also know this girl quite well, but should I tell my mate about this or just let it be as it is not of my business?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Moral question
- Thread starter Juanto
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
help a friend out, or stay out of it?
tough decision! I would not want to be in your position.
maybe they broke up? You may want to get the whole story from your friend.
SgtSplacker
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Take a screenshot or send him a link, don't say it's her just ask him if it's her.
Answer her date add. That will definately out her. Then send her link to your buddy telling him he needs to check this chick out you are messaging on OLD
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
No need for that since her picture there is the same she has on her Facebook profile main pic
Thats even better.
Bible_Belt
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I would message her on the dating site and be like "Hey ____. how's it going?" Don't say anything more than that. She will immediately assume that you told your friend about it, so you don't have to. She'll probably confess to him thinking she is heading you off from snitching on her.
SgtSplacker
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Why do you want some skank as a friend? Any girl would snitch out some dude she knew in a second, then band together with her girl friends to try and block him from banging any of them.
Tell your mate
Tell your mate
Scaramouche
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Dear Juanto,
So you play dating policeman,do you think he will be grateful to you?....well initially perhaps,but down the line?...Let's think it through,you spill the beans,he goes ballistic,they break up...Then a month later they get back together again,lets even think that they marry...will you be a welcome visitor at their home?...If you must interfere,then do it on the quiet.
So you play dating policeman,do you think he will be grateful to you?....well initially perhaps,but down the line?...Let's think it through,you spill the beans,he goes ballistic,they break up...Then a month later they get back together again,lets even think that they marry...will you be a welcome visitor at their home?...If you must interfere,then do it on the quiet.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
SgtSplacker
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It's because your buddy might be in denial that his girl is doing that. I have seen this kind of thing back fire and friendship ends and they accuse you of being jealous and telling lies. The picture is so he can see for himself and just asking him instead of accusing her covers you just in case things get weird.
SmooveMooves
Master Don Juan
"Hey bro I seen your chick on Tinder." You guys still together?
No need to beat around the Bush, he's your friend.
No need to beat around the Bush, he's your friend.
They have been together for several years now, but i wouldnt label him as a beta chump. However I did notice now on Facebook that even yesterday he was with his GF, so unless they broke it off today, this is some sneaky business from her side....
Unless you want to cause problems, stay out of it. It's not your business. They could be testing you, teasing you, manipulating you, screwing with you. You never know what people's motives are.
If your friend asks "did you see my girlfriend on dating site with her picture?" Then you can say "yes." Other than that, mind your own business.
If your friend asks "did you see my girlfriend on dating site with her picture?" Then you can say "yes." Other than that, mind your own business.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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I would send him the link and tell him. He can deal with it from there. You are saving him from additional heartache down the road. If I were him I would want to know.
taiyuu_otoko
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What do you hope to gain?
Nothing. Don't do or say anything. Unless he's your best friend from kindergarten and he's about to drop fifty grand on a wedding, forget about it.
Don't waste your time in friend-drama.
It's unbecoming.
Nothing. Don't do or say anything. Unless he's your best friend from kindergarten and he's about to drop fifty grand on a wedding, forget about it.
Don't waste your time in friend-drama.
It's unbecoming.