Just found the girlfriend of a friend on a dating site, where she just registered today. As far as I know, she is still his girlfriend, and although all her data there arent accurate, it is her picture. I also know this girl quite well, but should I tell my mate about this or just let it be as it is not of my business?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
help a friend out, or stay out of it?
tough decision! I would not want to be in your position.
maybe they broke up? You may want to get the whole story from your friend.
SgtSplacker
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Take a screenshot or send him a link, don't say it's her just ask him if it's her.
Answer her date add. That will definately out her. Then send her link to your buddy telling him he needs to check this chick out you are messaging on OLD
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
No need for that since her picture there is the same she has on her Facebook profile main pic
Thats even better.
Bible_Belt
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I would message her on the dating site and be like "Hey ____. how's it going?" Don't say anything more than that. She will immediately assume that you told your friend about it, so you don't have to. She'll probably confess to him thinking she is heading you off from snitching on her.
SgtSplacker
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Why do you want some skank as a friend? Any girl would snitch out some dude she knew in a second, then band together with her girl friends to try and block him from banging any of them.
Tell your mate
Tell your mate
Scaramouche
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Dear Juanto,
So you play dating policeman,do you think he will be grateful to you?....well initially perhaps,but down the line?...Let's think it through,you spill the beans,he goes ballistic,they break up...Then a month later they get back together again,lets even think that they marry...will you be a welcome visitor at their home?...If you must interfere,then do it on the quiet.
So you play dating policeman,do you think he will be grateful to you?....well initially perhaps,but down the line?...Let's think it through,you spill the beans,he goes ballistic,they break up...Then a month later they get back together again,lets even think that they marry...will you be a welcome visitor at their home?...If you must interfere,then do it on the quiet.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
SgtSplacker
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It's because your buddy might be in denial that his girl is doing that. I have seen this kind of thing back fire and friendship ends and they accuse you of being jealous and telling lies. The picture is so he can see for himself and just asking him instead of accusing her covers you just in case things get weird.
SmooveMooves
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"Hey bro I seen your chick on Tinder." You guys still together?
No need to beat around the Bush, he's your friend.
No need to beat around the Bush, he's your friend.
They have been together for several years now, but i wouldnt label him as a beta chump. However I did notice now on Facebook that even yesterday he was with his GF, so unless they broke it off today, this is some sneaky business from her side....
Unless you want to cause problems, stay out of it. It's not your business. They could be testing you, teasing you, manipulating you, screwing with you. You never know what people's motives are.
If your friend asks "did you see my girlfriend on dating site with her picture?" Then you can say "yes." Other than that, mind your own business.
If your friend asks "did you see my girlfriend on dating site with her picture?" Then you can say "yes." Other than that, mind your own business.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
dustmuffin
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I would send him the link and tell him. He can deal with it from there. You are saving him from additional heartache down the road. If I were him I would want to know.
taiyuu_otoko
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What do you hope to gain?
Nothing. Don't do or say anything. Unless he's your best friend from kindergarten and he's about to drop fifty grand on a wedding, forget about it.
Don't waste your time in friend-drama.
It's unbecoming.
Nothing. Don't do or say anything. Unless he's your best friend from kindergarten and he's about to drop fifty grand on a wedding, forget about it.
Don't waste your time in friend-drama.
It's unbecoming.