Just found the girlfriend of a friend on a dating site, where she just registered today. As far as I know, she is still his girlfriend, and although all her data there arent accurate, it is her picture. I also know this girl quite well, but should I tell my mate about this or just let it be as it is not of my business?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
help a friend out, or stay out of it?
tough decision! I would not want to be in your position.
maybe they broke up? You may want to get the whole story from your friend.
SgtSplacker
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Take a screenshot or send him a link, don't say it's her just ask him if it's her.
Answer her date add. That will definately out her. Then send her link to your buddy telling him he needs to check this chick out you are messaging on OLD
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
No need for that since her picture there is the same she has on her Facebook profile main pic
Thats even better.
Bible_Belt
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I would message her on the dating site and be like "Hey ____. how's it going?" Don't say anything more than that. She will immediately assume that you told your friend about it, so you don't have to. She'll probably confess to him thinking she is heading you off from snitching on her.
SgtSplacker
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Why do you want some skank as a friend? Any girl would snitch out some dude she knew in a second, then band together with her girl friends to try and block him from banging any of them.
Tell your mate
Tell your mate
Scaramouche
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Dear Juanto,
So you play dating policeman,do you think he will be grateful to you?....well initially perhaps,but down the line?...Let's think it through,you spill the beans,he goes ballistic,they break up...Then a month later they get back together again,lets even think that they marry...will you be a welcome visitor at their home?...If you must interfere,then do it on the quiet.
So you play dating policeman,do you think he will be grateful to you?....well initially perhaps,but down the line?...Let's think it through,you spill the beans,he goes ballistic,they break up...Then a month later they get back together again,lets even think that they marry...will you be a welcome visitor at their home?...If you must interfere,then do it on the quiet.
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
SgtSplacker
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It's because your buddy might be in denial that his girl is doing that. I have seen this kind of thing back fire and friendship ends and they accuse you of being jealous and telling lies. The picture is so he can see for himself and just asking him instead of accusing her covers you just in case things get weird.
SmooveMooves
Master Don Juan
"Hey bro I seen your chick on Tinder." You guys still together?
No need to beat around the Bush, he's your friend.
No need to beat around the Bush, he's your friend.
They have been together for several years now, but i wouldnt label him as a beta chump. However I did notice now on Facebook that even yesterday he was with his GF, so unless they broke it off today, this is some sneaky business from her side....
Unless you want to cause problems, stay out of it. It's not your business. They could be testing you, teasing you, manipulating you, screwing with you. You never know what people's motives are.
If your friend asks "did you see my girlfriend on dating site with her picture?" Then you can say "yes." Other than that, mind your own business.
If your friend asks "did you see my girlfriend on dating site with her picture?" Then you can say "yes." Other than that, mind your own business.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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I would send him the link and tell him. He can deal with it from there. You are saving him from additional heartache down the road. If I were him I would want to know.
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
What do you hope to gain?
Nothing. Don't do or say anything. Unless he's your best friend from kindergarten and he's about to drop fifty grand on a wedding, forget about it.
Don't waste your time in friend-drama.
It's unbecoming.
Nothing. Don't do or say anything. Unless he's your best friend from kindergarten and he's about to drop fifty grand on a wedding, forget about it.
Don't waste your time in friend-drama.
It's unbecoming.