"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Moodiness ruining my Game

CyranoDeBergerac

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I am more than well-aquainted with Mr. Blues myself. The best response to this (I have found) is to try to work yourself out of it. Music, weight-lifting, whatever works. Failing that, don't try to be something you're not. My periods of isolation actually work to my advantage as long as I'm not sitting and stewing in my apartment.

I've gotten tons of play because I was the only guy at the bar, or the club reading a book, or writing poetry. It sets you apart from the other guys and creates an air of mystery and intrigue which you can use to your advantage later.

Whatever you do, just don't brood on how much life or yourself in particular sucks.

-Cyrano
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Alpine

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Well, probably like a lot of older people who have gone through the loop, I put some ideas up.

What happens? They just carry on whining. "Yes but, yes but, you don't understand, oh poor little meee"

If someone says I've got x problem, someone posts a few ideas, they go off and try them out, then report back or ask a few questions, great, but this rarely happens.

Fools to themselves.

I didn't quite understand what they were on about in the mature forum at first, I thought they were giving the younger guys a bad break, but now I know exactly what they mean.
 
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