Moodiness ruining my Game

[Marcopolo]

Hi, sometimes I can be a moody person and get very depressed. Most of the time I am okay, but I have my ups and downs. The problem is that when I am in a good mood I can make a decent DJ. Then I will go through a time when I am moody and depressed about life. Like right now a chick e-mailed me about a date tomorrow and wanting to know if I want to get together. Another one left a message on the phone, etc. The problem is I am feeling really $hitty right now and don't feel like talking to any of them. I may feel like this for a few days, I don't know. If I go out tomorrow I will be too depressed to be much fun and ruin my chances with her. My moodiness seems to get in the way of my social life and IT $UCKS. It makes me feel totally AFC again. No woman wants to be with a guy like this, but that is how I am.

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Hit some weights...the endorphins released from working out will suppress that depression. The more you work out, better you'll look, and the higher your self esteem goes...then *poof*..bye bye depression.

If the depression is deeper than you can handle...bounce your problems and thoughts off a professional, counselor, or clergy.

 

[Marcopolo]

I know that lifting weights does help. I also like to draw and paint for fun and that can help. My problem is that even though I am aware of this, when I get depressed I feel too $hitty to do much of anything, including things that can make me feel better such as painting, lifting weights or going out on a date.
the moodiness is not constant either, sometimes I feel great or at least good, and some of the time I feel down. It is difficult to feel confident around women when I know they don't want a guy like this. Does anyone else ever have this problem?

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Aye bro..we all go through fits of depression once in awhile.

For whatever reason: family, work, school, money, etc...its bound to hit a person eventually.

You also have to remember that its fall. I see you live in the Bay Area (my birthtown btw Daily City ). You have to remember, its fall, the weather is crappy, its rains a lot, the weather is gloomy, its cold..depression is more likely to hit this time of the year. Hell, I live in Rain City Capitol Seattle and its grey/rainy/cold 60% of the year here...its about adjusting and coping.

Just keep positive, eat a good diet, focus on one task rather than have a lot of things on your plate. You aren't alone bro...hit the weights, spend time with family, simplify.

 

[Kaine]

Yes agreed exercise may help mitigate your depression. Gives a good dose of endorphins and would be a great start to a 6 pack.

Depression can also be a mental disorder as well through no fault of your own, I have found myself a bit down in the past for NO discernable reason. This could be a chemical imbalance you are experiencing, I've tried St John's Wort, which is a cheap herbal supplement you can get at the supermarket or pharmacy. I've found its worked for me, perhaps you can try that.

Well at least you've admitted you have a problem, now go solve it. Good luck.

 

[Scrumtulescence]

I thought I read somewhere that "working out" (ie lifting weights, as opposed to cardio) doesn't really do much in the way of releasing endorphins into your body.

 

[Alpine]

Weights does give you a high and I think the results help your self image too. If you really get into steady running, it can be like going into a completely different state, a Zen like experience.

I keep seeing these posts from you moody kids and it's starting to depress me.

I keep telling you it's all about where you put your attention, what you focus on and getting into a state where you can take positive action on things.

But no that's like hard work. Any pills I can take? I know,I'll label myself with a mental illness that will solve my problems.

I'm sure there's a sticky or an article on being down in the dumps with lots of ways to help.

 

[sapphire]

We all go through periods of ups and downs. You can't avoid it. Excercise, a good diet and sufficient sleep will help, but it won't eliminate the blues altogether. If, however, things get to the point where you can't function on a day to day basis (i,e chronic depression), then medical help may be appropriate.

But, yea, it could put a damper on your love life. I remember one time when things were tough and I was feeling down, this really hot girl from my job was making the moves on me. She even dialed her digits on my cell phone without me asking and called me on several occassions to go out. Due to my depression, however, I was not in the mood to deal with anyone, even a hot chick and I never ended up hooking up with her. She thought I had rejected her and she eventually lost interest.

 

[Player_Supreme]

Dam, this is why I hardly come up in here anymore. Post like this. We are men. Not some whinning assed women!

Moodyness=no pvssy. A simple formula. Why would anyone want the end result of being a spoiled bytch and actin moody?

No offense to the poster but the logical seems obvious to me!

Act like a ho and you get treated like one...no goodies. Act like a man who is in control of himself and you get the kindom of puvssy laid out at your feet.

We all have a choice in our actions and behaviors. Back when I used to get involved in flame attacks...folks would ask me why?

My answer was always because I chose too.

It's all a matter of choice.



Just as it is a matter of choice to post whinny posts like this one and bring the whole board down to another lower level!!!!

 

[Vercingetorix777]

Listening to music helps. I like to hear Jimi Hendrix when I'm in the hole. Also Alice in Chains and bluegrass. Find out what form of depression you have, it sounds clinical to me. If you feel great a lot you could have Seasonal Affective Disorder or Bi-polar. Find out if any of these run in your family. Other things that help me which aren't healthy include ciggarettes, sweets, and carbohydrates. Talking to a good friend or family member can work wonders.

 

[Player_Supreme]

Originally posted by Vercingetorix777
Listening to music helps. I like to hear Jimi Hendrix when I'm in the hole. Also Alice in Chains and bluegrass. Find out what form of depression you have, it sounds clinical to me. If you feel great a lot you could have Seasonal Affective Disorder or Bi-polar. Find out if any of these run in your family. Other things that help me which aren't healthy include ciggarettes, sweets, and carbohydrates. Talking to a good friend or family member can work wonders.

You never answered my question. Your screen name you took it from the fantasy novel called Druids correct?

Or maybe you did. I forgot I'm using my old screen name!

 

[frivolousz21]

1. fix your problems.

2. Keep them to yourself(dont tell any women about this)

3. suck it up. its probably just a sub concious pattern you are in. TRY TO BREAK IT

 

[Vercingetorix777]

Close on the Druids, I've read the book. I'm more interested in actual La Tene Celtic culture though. Wanna be a history professor.

 

[ScrewIt]

watch a video or comedy and laugh on it. laughing/smiling also releases endorphins

 

[FightingApathy]

People say that exercise produces endorphins, but I have yet to experience this.
I admit that I've only been doing it for a month, but still, exercise only makes my bad moods worse.
I get extremely angry, to the point of wanting to become violent, but fortunately I'm too exhausted to act on these feelings.

 

[ScrewIt]

have you ever considered the fact that you might be suffereing from clinical depression?

 

[FightingApathy]

I've been taking anti-depressants for over 10 years, and none of them has worked.
But then I'm not "depressed" depressed; it's really more of a mixture of boredom with my life and discomfort with activity and change - the things I'm trying to fix.

What I described in my previous post has never lasted longer than half an hour after the end of my workout.
You could say that I'm "pumped", but have no [productive] outlet for it ... and I'm also not used to it either.

I get a milder version of this feeling sometimes too, when deep down I need to get up and do something, but don't have the will to follow through.

 

[Alpine]

Fighting Apathy, (why do people label themselves negatively?)

Exercise will also release more testosterone, with some people this can create more aggressive feelings.

Strikes me though you are really frustrated about something, this is what's making you angry.

Remember all emotions have their uses, they are not always bad, but sometimes inappropriate or unresourceful.

Start to think of these emotions as signals that are telling you to take action on something you've been thinking about.

I'm thinking of asking the Mods if we can have a depression/mental health Forum. That way if I don't want to, I can avoid reading the same old whining crap, I feel sorry for myself stuff.

On a good day, like today. I don't mind offering up some advice, even though I know it will be totally ignored in favour of another depressed teenie suggesting Prozac therapy.

 

[DJBen]

"I'm thinking of asking the Mods if we can have a depression/mental health Forum. That way if I don't want to, I can avoid reading the same old whining crap, I feel sorry for myself stuff"

In one way, we all benefit. In another way, it's a place for people to retreat to and avoid the realities of life, thus becoming counter productive and more "cant came this girl cause I have no confidence" threads.

If you're gonna moan, make sure it's about something that is actually STOPPING you from doing things [like my abscess is stopping me eating/making sense when I talk ::shameless sympathy seek:: ] and that it goes into anything else.

It's weird, people that are 30-100 dont moan about much at all, but people that are 16-30 seem to ***** and whine a hell of a lot more. I wonder whats most responsible for that.

 

[Marcopolo]

It is easy to say" just cut it out, be a man" That is exactly my point-I know that is what I am SUPOSSED to do and what my dad would tell me to do. And I know that it is not going to get me any P, that is why I am wondering what to do about it. Unless you have felt this way you have no idea what it is like. And the internet is really the only place guys can come and "whine", as some here put it (I would put it more along the lines of I am saying how I really feel) .