my girlfriend and i have a our one month "anniversary" real soon and im 90% sure she is getting me a gift for it. Im not sure if i should get her one too because i read you shouldn't cuz it'll make the one year anniversary less special... thing is we will both be in college in a year so we wont have a 1 year anniversary. so should i get her something small?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
just so suave
Senior Don Juan
No, I'd tell her shes silly for even thinking of the 1 month anniversary as something special
jesusrules
Senior Don Juan
just get her something it doesnt have to be to huge or anything. Even if she doesnt get you something, you atleast did.
Supremo
Senior Don Juan
I dunno dude, a month anniversary isn't really something I would celebrate.
Don't actually get her anything. Have her over and cook her dinner.
I've found that cooking dinner is MUCH better than any gift, plus it usually leads to other things... yaddaymean?
Don't actually get her anything. Have her over and cook her dinner.
I've found that cooking dinner is MUCH better than any gift, plus it usually leads to other things... yaddaymean?