Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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C00lAF

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So im in this situation,i wanna get a job as a uni student,and that would basicly end my social life,cause i wont have time at all(night 9 hour shift) but i would have money. Wich worths more at this moment,social life or finance?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Social life is fun, but when it's over, it's over. You have ZERO to show for it, and it might even cost you.Sure, you might increase your social skills, but that's only with targeted practice, and consciously pushing your comfort zone, something most people don't do. OTOH, if you suck it and work, you'll have money and some experiences (working, dealing with professional issues, etc) that will be more likely to serve you in the long run.

Besides, working won't END your social life it will only significantly decrease it, which will force you to make the best of what little of it you have, and not waste time with idiots and floozies.
 

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Employment and family at the top of the list. Anything else comes after those with moderation and as time allows.
 

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Social life is fun, but when it's over, it's over. You have ZERO to show for it, and it might even cost you.Sure, you might increase your social skills, but that's only with targeted practice, and consciously pushing your comfort zone, something most people don't do. OTOH, if you suck it and work, you'll have money and some experiences (working, dealing with professional issues, etc) that will be more likely to serve you in the long run.

Besides, working won't END your social life it will only significantly decrease it, which will force you to make the best of what little of it you have, and not waste time with idiots and floozies.
What i thod about is i will actualy be busy high value man,considering that id have to manage my time like a mofo,and i will use my spare time to study or sleep.and belive me bro it will end it lmao,cause no holidays and i finish late night im talking like 3 am ish
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Employment and family at the top of the list. Anything else comes after those with moderation and as time allows.
Soon i wont live with my family hopefully im moving out. I feel like a puzzay when i ask my parents for cash tbh
 

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I hate to say it but I would go for social life. My senior year in high school I got a job, 8 hour shift on Saturday night. I was so happy I was getting paid but missed out in all the parties and getting experience with girls. In the end I had maybe $3,000. I put in a stock recommended by Harvard edcauted grads and lost it all in 3 months. In the end I had nothing to show for it, got scammed by Ivy League educated individuals, and 0 girls.

Money comes and money goes. Your relationships and experience with girls, you can't get that when you are older. No one will care you have an extra $50,000 or $100,000 in your bank if you don't connect with people and have good relationships with women.

Brutal. o_O
 

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I hate to say it but I would go for social life. My senior year in high school I got a job, 8 hour shift on Saturday night. I was so happy I was getting paid but missed out in all the parties and getting experience with girls. In the end I had maybe $3,000. I put in a stock recommended by Harvard edcauted grads and lost it all in 3 months. In the end I had nothing to show for it, got scammed by Ivy League educated individuals, and 0 girls.

Money comes and money goes. Your relationships and experience with girls, you can't get that when you are older. No one will care you have an extra $50,000 or $100,000 in your bank if you don't connect with people and have good relationships with women.

Brutal. o_O
Im alredy having my fair share of women with 2 casual f buddys and some poetentials here and there,i just want my cactus wet,no lovey dovey things on mind atm
 

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Soon i wont live with my family hopefully im moving out. I feel like a puzzay when i ask my parents for cash tbh
If you want said independence and more self sufficiency, then of course employment comes first.
 

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If you want said independence and more self sufficiency, then of course employment comes first.
Yeah i really dont want to get in the real world after graduation without knowing how it works
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I mean it will teach me what social life will never do
 

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Yeah i really dont want to get in the real world after graduation without knowing how it works
Experience is the best teacher…
Helps develop a work ethic also
 

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Experience is the best teacher…
Helps develop a work ethic also
Exactly,i can read all the books about finance,but without practicing it,its just a waste of time.
 

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Why not both? If you waste NO TIME at all, then you will have enough time to do it all. But you have to constantly stay doing something productive, and most people get tired and lazy after a while. The good news about doing this is that at the end of each night, you'll sleep like a baby.
 

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I say the money. Plus, it's not like you will be working every night. I bet you will even have some weekends off too. Sometimes you need to make sacrifices, but in the end you will have solid foundation of money.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I say the money. Plus, it's not like you will be working every night. I bet you will even have some weekends off too. Sometimes you need to make sacrifices, but in the end you will have solid foundation of money.
Unfortunatly it is every night
 

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Social life above all unless you're in dire need of money.

Don't forget what you're living for, you don't live for your boss you live to enjoy yourself, what do you enjoy?
 

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Money is more important. I focus on money pretty hard core.

The truth is, money gives you access to everything. This leads to a better social and sex life without even trying. Without money you are in a cardboard box living with rats and roaches. Having lots of inner beauty won't put food on the table or a roof over your head either. Friends and family will help you to a point, but if you become too inconvenient they will abandon you. So yeah. Money.
 

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Social life above all unless you're in dire need of money.

Don't forget what you're living for, you don't live for your boss you live to enjoy yourself, what do you enjoy?
I enjoy clubs that i cannot afford-expensive food,traveling. And i guess if my current plates give me attuide down the road ill straightout find a hookers number
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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