You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Have you been with a hooker before AFC Savior?AFC Savior said:
that is fvcking sick..AFC Savior said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Luke Skywalker said:
How was that like?Dongfu said:M y dad took me on a surf trip to Bali to get laid when I was 14. Was that wrong. Am I somehow traumatized by the situation?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It was great. On the way from the cab to the hotel room, two half naked Javanese girls were whistling at me from the pool. I ended up sleeping with both of them a couple hours later, without having to pay. I did end up checking some hookers later in the trip. They were only $12 U.S.Luke Skywalker said:
Point? You can get an STD from anyone unless she's a virgin. (eg. If a virgin girl just went once with a guy who has an STD then it's the same as if she's a prostitute with the same diseases. Since most girls are non-virgins, then anyone can have an STD and there is no greater risk going with a hooker)Vladimir Horowitz said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yeah, you cant trust what people say all the time.LostAndConfused said:
Because it's more rewarding to not pay, to make it happen with your skills. I should mention that in general, the hookers in bali are often a last resort, after you went to all the clubs and tried your best to hook up with a non-hooker. If it comes down to it, you can grab a hooker at the end of the night. It usually doesnt come down to it.Stéphane said: