Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Have you been with a hooker before AFC Savior?AFC Savior said:
that is fvcking sick..AFC Savior said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Luke Skywalker said:
How was that like?Dongfu said:M y dad took me on a surf trip to Bali to get laid when I was 14. Was that wrong. Am I somehow traumatized by the situation?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
It was great. On the way from the cab to the hotel room, two half naked Javanese girls were whistling at me from the pool. I ended up sleeping with both of them a couple hours later, without having to pay. I did end up checking some hookers later in the trip. They were only $12 U.S.Luke Skywalker said:
Point? You can get an STD from anyone unless she's a virgin. (eg. If a virgin girl just went once with a guy who has an STD then it's the same as if she's a prostitute with the same diseases. Since most girls are non-virgins, then anyone can have an STD and there is no greater risk going with a hooker)Vladimir Horowitz said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yeah, you cant trust what people say all the time.LostAndConfused said:
Because it's more rewarding to not pay, to make it happen with your skills. I should mention that in general, the hookers in bali are often a last resort, after you went to all the clubs and tried your best to hook up with a non-hooker. If it comes down to it, you can grab a hooker at the end of the night. It usually doesnt come down to it.Stéphane said: