You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Have you been with a hooker before AFC Savior?AFC Savior said:
that is fvcking sick..AFC Savior said:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Luke Skywalker said:
How was that like?Dongfu said:M y dad took me on a surf trip to Bali to get laid when I was 14. Was that wrong. Am I somehow traumatized by the situation?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It was great. On the way from the cab to the hotel room, two half naked Javanese girls were whistling at me from the pool. I ended up sleeping with both of them a couple hours later, without having to pay. I did end up checking some hookers later in the trip. They were only $12 U.S.Luke Skywalker said:
Point? You can get an STD from anyone unless she's a virgin. (eg. If a virgin girl just went once with a guy who has an STD then it's the same as if she's a prostitute with the same diseases. Since most girls are non-virgins, then anyone can have an STD and there is no greater risk going with a hooker)Vladimir Horowitz said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yeah, you cant trust what people say all the time.LostAndConfused said:
Because it's more rewarding to not pay, to make it happen with your skills. I should mention that in general, the hookers in bali are often a last resort, after you went to all the clubs and tried your best to hook up with a non-hooker. If it comes down to it, you can grab a hooker at the end of the night. It usually doesnt come down to it.Stéphane said: