"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Modes of Communication

Obsidian

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I would like to know if phones are really better (in all circumstances) than email and other text-based services. I've never particularly liked phones, and one of the girls I'm dealing with atm seems really shy. Wouldn't it be just as good to use email or w/e if she seems comfortable with it? Or at least to start out with...

Thoughts, please.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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the only time when txt or email is better than phone is if the girl sounds like a guy or your mother.
 
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"Email is for geeks and pedophiles." - Sebastian Valmont

Haha, but seriously, email should never be use instead of telephone communication. Of course, you can use a nicely written email to supplement your other interactions (with the benefit being time to think and plan carefully what you will say) but it is never a replacement for real-time communication.

Ask yourself this; do you want to use email because she is shy, or because you are shy?
 

everywomanshero

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I use voice and texting both. I almost never use IM or email, but I would definitely go IM over email. I pretty much never email anyone, except for business purposes.

My thoughts: If a chick is just sitting around waiting for email, that's probably not someone who is going to be someone I'd want to bother knowing anyway.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thomas94305

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The real question is.. is phone or text better to do WHAT? If you're busy, she's busy at a particular time.. email's great. Crap, we communicate through this board, and never call each other.

As for starting things with a woman, building attraction, cutting down on the flaking... I find phone calls are the route to go. If she just gives email, then don't count on much from her. You want to make things between you seem as natural as possible as quickly as possible. A woman that throws you in the email zone now has given you another hurdle to get through. You have to go from email to phone to hanging out, vs phone to just casually going and doing something.
 

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What's the big deal? You call her up, set-up the date, and BAM! that's it. You're only on the phone for a couple of minutes. Why would you use text or email... seems like it would be harder to me.
 

everywomanshero

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Text is mostly useful for quick, witty messages, at least that's what I use it for a lot or just tidbits of useless trivia type ****. It can also be useful if you're still green and have trouble getting someone to pickup (this happens to a lot of guys during the newbie mission phase). You can have some interesting txt and then she might pickup, but then it's really so damaged controlled it's not even funny.

I don't just call and get off the phone real fast, though unless I've already gotten a really good timebridge and I know she's beyond down, in many cases I actually make them ask me out more than once before I meet them again. I stay on the phone with them a lot and pretty often. In this way they have already decided to sleep with me by the time we've met. I also get very very little LMR by running solid game, actually I never got much LMR when I didn't run solid game, but I did get a lot of buyer's remorse.
 

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Also, according to Mystery's 7 hour rule*, phone game is included too.

*The 7 hour rule is that it takes 7 hours from meeting a woman to having sex with her.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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