"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Modes of Communication

Obsidian

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I would like to know if phones are really better (in all circumstances) than email and other text-based services. I've never particularly liked phones, and one of the girls I'm dealing with atm seems really shy. Wouldn't it be just as good to use email or w/e if she seems comfortable with it? Or at least to start out with...

Thoughts, please.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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the only time when txt or email is better than phone is if the girl sounds like a guy or your mother.
 
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"Email is for geeks and pedophiles." - Sebastian Valmont

Haha, but seriously, email should never be use instead of telephone communication. Of course, you can use a nicely written email to supplement your other interactions (with the benefit being time to think and plan carefully what you will say) but it is never a replacement for real-time communication.

Ask yourself this; do you want to use email because she is shy, or because you are shy?
 

everywomanshero

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I use voice and texting both. I almost never use IM or email, but I would definitely go IM over email. I pretty much never email anyone, except for business purposes.

My thoughts: If a chick is just sitting around waiting for email, that's probably not someone who is going to be someone I'd want to bother knowing anyway.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Thomas94305

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The real question is.. is phone or text better to do WHAT? If you're busy, she's busy at a particular time.. email's great. Crap, we communicate through this board, and never call each other.

As for starting things with a woman, building attraction, cutting down on the flaking... I find phone calls are the route to go. If she just gives email, then don't count on much from her. You want to make things between you seem as natural as possible as quickly as possible. A woman that throws you in the email zone now has given you another hurdle to get through. You have to go from email to phone to hanging out, vs phone to just casually going and doing something.
 

Ace_McGregor

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What's the big deal? You call her up, set-up the date, and BAM! that's it. You're only on the phone for a couple of minutes. Why would you use text or email... seems like it would be harder to me.
 

everywomanshero

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Text is mostly useful for quick, witty messages, at least that's what I use it for a lot or just tidbits of useless trivia type ****. It can also be useful if you're still green and have trouble getting someone to pickup (this happens to a lot of guys during the newbie mission phase). You can have some interesting txt and then she might pickup, but then it's really so damaged controlled it's not even funny.

I don't just call and get off the phone real fast, though unless I've already gotten a really good timebridge and I know she's beyond down, in many cases I actually make them ask me out more than once before I meet them again. I stay on the phone with them a lot and pretty often. In this way they have already decided to sleep with me by the time we've met. I also get very very little LMR by running solid game, actually I never got much LMR when I didn't run solid game, but I did get a lot of buyer's remorse.
 

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Also, according to Mystery's 7 hour rule*, phone game is included too.

*The 7 hour rule is that it takes 7 hours from meeting a woman to having sex with her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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