An MPUA suggested me this..if you are going out with a girl and you cant control your frame(like she gives you a **** test) and end up screwing yourself and looking like an idiot..he says model your idol..it can be anyone you look up to that is good with women..follow his body language, communication style and everything you can relate to..however i'm wondering until when should i model him? what do you think?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Modelling your idol helps control your frame?
- Thread starter somebody
- Start date
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
i personally do this alot. If Im ever nervous or unsure what to do, i just model someone that I view as a role model. At the same time, as pook said, "imitation is suicide", so i guess your screwing yourself out of experience but i personally prefer this way
thefonz
Master Don Juan
Pook was quoting Emerson, and the original line was, "There comes a time in every man's education where HE comes to realize that imitation is suicide." if you're not there yet and don't understand it, don't worry about it. Emerson also said, "All life is an experiment." so figure it out for yourself.dice said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
thanks guys..what if you model someone you know for some time and you know his bad side too..you want to copy his good traits only right? how do you do that in front of that person? what do you think about visualizing that person?just creating an image of him or a video-like?
another thing i have a close friend and i feel like i was depending too much on him before and now were not so close because i feel like i want to have my own life and i think he doesnt really like it that i'm doing this and he feels that i forgot about him..yeah i agree i rely too much on him before maybe thats why?
another thing i have a close friend and i feel like i was depending too much on him before and now were not so close because i feel like i want to have my own life and i think he doesnt really like it that i'm doing this and he feels that i forgot about him..yeah i agree i rely too much on him before maybe thats why?