Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I have 2 friends who are black belts in Judo and I gotta say, I've never saw a martial art be so useless unless those guys just choked up or something, Karo Parisyan was able to utilize his Judo quite a bit in the UFC, but he is also a top tier fighter back in the day and even then, it didn't come out much, but when it did, made a difference I imagine
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
lol....yes I can see that. The only martial art more useless might be Akikdo. Btw traditional martial arts like TKD and Karate are coming back into style in MMA. I always figured that the TKD kicks would be very useful in a streetlight if used correctly. MMA is starting to prove that Karate blitz attacks ( Machida, MVP) and TKD kicks (Wonderboy) are deadly.
Well kicks have always been in favor, they generate the most power out of any strike by far, it's just hard to aim them specifically at a chin like you can a punch, but like some guys could probably kill with a well placed spinning back kick or head kick. I watched this kick live in a bar, the entire place went wild was the craziest strike I ever saw.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.