"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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naluholo

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Man, it takes a lot more than you seem to be realizing. Someone suggests Muay Thai and you're worried about getting close range with a grappler?

You want to compete in MMA. Take muay thai. Take jujitsu. BOTH. You'll strike until you have an opening, then strike as you use that opening to perform a throw. Anyways, if you're going to be going against grapplers, you need to know how to fight in close range. Otherwise, when they get a hand on you you're fvked.

Learning to grapple or box well is going to take a lot of time in itself. And you don't just learn a submission hold or joint lock either -- that's easy. Anyone can learn them. Finding the openings or the opportunities to use these techniques is the hard part. While you're looking for the chance to do an armbar, he (or she) could be kickin' your ass. Training to the point where you have a technique for every opening takes some time. Then you have to train for defending the counters to your techniques and learn what to transition to when the opponent counters. You have to learn escapes and counters yourself for when the opponent gets a jump on you. And you need to know them like the back of your hand. You don't have time to think in a fight - a good blood choke can take you out in a matter of seconds.

All of that is only for ground work. Think about it, you have to be able to get your opponent to the ground. This means getting your opponent off balance without being off balance yourself. You can't do that with boxing alone - how many times do good boxers fall in a fight? Not many. You can't just use strength, ask someone who practices jujitsu what he thinks about someone who fights with strength... They'll tell you that's when it's the most fun(ny). Man, you've got years of training ahead of you before you can compete successfully. years and years. It's not a matter of "doing" boxing, "doing" MT, or "doing" that submission grappling ken shamrock did.

Having said all this: Good luck. If you want to do it, go for it. I'm not trying to be an ass, but you seemed to be misunderstanding quite a few things when it comes to fighting, especially when it comes to fighting well trained people. But again, Good luck.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Saine

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Lol, you're an *******.

Who said I was worried about getting close range with a grappler?

I will take whatever I can, not whatever you think I can. Apparently in NY/NC, there's no good ring.

I know how to fight as a fighter, the basic concept, no need to repeat.
 

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Oh =) I must have missed that. You know the basic concepts of fighting. That's all you need. Sorry =)
 

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Saine, what you should focus on in terms of striking arts are either, boxing or muay thai. In regards to grappling, do BJJ. Be sure to practice them both because you'll need them.

In the course of practicing both striking and grappling disciplines, you'll find out that just because you may be in shape to grapple, doesnt mean that youre in shape to do stand up striking at a guy or vice versa. Both grappling and striking requires a different type of breathing and stamina so it's important that you cross train.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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