"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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naluholo

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Man, it takes a lot more than you seem to be realizing. Someone suggests Muay Thai and you're worried about getting close range with a grappler?

You want to compete in MMA. Take muay thai. Take jujitsu. BOTH. You'll strike until you have an opening, then strike as you use that opening to perform a throw. Anyways, if you're going to be going against grapplers, you need to know how to fight in close range. Otherwise, when they get a hand on you you're fvked.

Learning to grapple or box well is going to take a lot of time in itself. And you don't just learn a submission hold or joint lock either -- that's easy. Anyone can learn them. Finding the openings or the opportunities to use these techniques is the hard part. While you're looking for the chance to do an armbar, he (or she) could be kickin' your ass. Training to the point where you have a technique for every opening takes some time. Then you have to train for defending the counters to your techniques and learn what to transition to when the opponent counters. You have to learn escapes and counters yourself for when the opponent gets a jump on you. And you need to know them like the back of your hand. You don't have time to think in a fight - a good blood choke can take you out in a matter of seconds.

All of that is only for ground work. Think about it, you have to be able to get your opponent to the ground. This means getting your opponent off balance without being off balance yourself. You can't do that with boxing alone - how many times do good boxers fall in a fight? Not many. You can't just use strength, ask someone who practices jujitsu what he thinks about someone who fights with strength... They'll tell you that's when it's the most fun(ny). Man, you've got years of training ahead of you before you can compete successfully. years and years. It's not a matter of "doing" boxing, "doing" MT, or "doing" that submission grappling ken shamrock did.

Having said all this: Good luck. If you want to do it, go for it. I'm not trying to be an ass, but you seemed to be misunderstanding quite a few things when it comes to fighting, especially when it comes to fighting well trained people. But again, Good luck.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Saine

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Lol, you're an *******.

Who said I was worried about getting close range with a grappler?

I will take whatever I can, not whatever you think I can. Apparently in NY/NC, there's no good ring.

I know how to fight as a fighter, the basic concept, no need to repeat.
 

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Oh =) I must have missed that. You know the basic concepts of fighting. That's all you need. Sorry =)
 

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Saine, what you should focus on in terms of striking arts are either, boxing or muay thai. In regards to grappling, do BJJ. Be sure to practice them both because you'll need them.

In the course of practicing both striking and grappling disciplines, you'll find out that just because you may be in shape to grapple, doesnt mean that youre in shape to do stand up striking at a guy or vice versa. Both grappling and striking requires a different type of breathing and stamina so it's important that you cross train.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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