"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Been spinning a few plates the last 2 months - 3 or 4 to be precise - one of them being my ex of 1 year- we were casual hooking up sort of a FWB thing

One of these plates I feel would be a good match for me, great s*x, meets all criteria, red flags minimal and all issues highlighted across this forum are few and far between with this woman...I have screened her for a couple of months and fairly confident of this (of course not too confident)

She give me the 'exclusive' talk, i agreed and decided to drop remaining plates and focus entirely on her. Things are going well, and yesterday she has invited me over to stay the week at her place as her parents are away. I spoke to my ex and explained to her things had to come to and end in terms of FWB and we couldn't speak or see each other anymore, blocked and deleted everything....

The girl I'm seeing now - We have sex frequent and never had any issues previously, always shown her a good time and very experimental etc, however, last night I struggled physically, I kept having like mental images of my ex and couldn't seem to shake her out of my mind, very strange for me as I've never had this issue before and it has kind of freaked me out because I don't want to ruin this thing just as it is starting.....

Has anyone been through anything similar? Was very very weird.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I must add that it was as if my mind was elsewhere, not just when we were in the bedroom but across the night on a whole...

I really like this girl and she is definitely everything a man would want in terms of HB and how she caters to you, It was more mentally that I was struggling if i'm honest, this has put me in a pressure/performance sort of mindset, which is concerning as I'm going to be spending the next 6 days with this chick, if the performance continues to falter it is only a matter of time before she starts to ask questions.

Any help would be appreciated.
 
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If she's that great she should be an expert on how to get your d1ck up. Why you saying she is all that and at the same time can't get it up on her or can't keep it up or whatever. Why you want to assume automatically that it is your d1ck broken, when you watch a wrong porno and you can't jack off to it do you automatically assume it's you who's messed up? Why change the logic around for a woman?

On a different note you did several fvcked up things, 1 is dropping your plates, and 2 is deleting their numbers and telling to not to call you.
 
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If she's that great she should be an expert on how to get your d1ck up. Why you saying she is all that and at the same time can't get it up on her or can't keep it up or whatever. Why you want to assume automatically that it is your d1ck broken, when you watch a wrong porno and you can't jack off to it do you automatically assume it's you who's messed up? Why change the logic around for a woman?

On a different note you did several fvcked up things, 1 is dropping your plates, and 2 is deleting their numbers and telling to not to call you.
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I've never had an issue previously with this girl, we f*ck and f*ck for hours, this is what I mean, it is out of character, we had a spa break just last week and the s*x was really really good, genuinely, we were at it like rabbits for the 2 days we were there.

This has only happened since I dropped all other options and all I could seem to think about yesterday was them???? Th ex moreso

And understood, I agree most people on this site wont agree with dropping plates, however I feel I have met a good option and wanted to pursue it..... That's what everyone's trying to do right?
 
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Fvck what every one else is trying to do, you do what's right for you. I can only guess, and this is a guess, this is not solid, you previously had fun with her because you had other options, no pressure, she was just an affair for you, just another fun girl, and you felt high from that, you were the man. Now that you think you got her exclusive there are other more important things than sex deep down in your mind. Take a deep breath though, more foreplay, less alcohol.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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MT93 said:
DJ's

Been spinning a few plates the last 2 months - 3 or 4 to be precise - one of them being my ex of 1 year- we were casual hooking up sort of a FWB thing

One of these plates I feel would be a good match for me, great s*x, meets all criteria, red flags minimal and all issues highlighted across this forum are few and far between with this woman...I have screened her for a couple of months and fairly confident of this (of course not too confident)

She give me the 'exclusive' talk, i agreed and decided to drop remaining plates and focus entirely on her. Things are going well, and yesterday she has invited me over to stay the week at her place as her parents are away. I spoke to my ex and explained to her things had to come to and end in terms of FWB and we couldn't speak or see each other anymore, blocked and deleted everything....

The girl I'm seeing now - We have sex frequent and never had any issues previously, always shown her a good time and very experimental etc, however, last night I struggled physically, I kept having like mental images of my ex and couldn't seem to shake her out of my mind, very strange for me as I've never had this issue before and it has kind of freaked me out because I don't want to ruin this thing just as it is starting.....

Has anyone been through anything similar? Was very very weird.
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Awwwe ur in lub :love:
 
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Fvck what every one else is trying to do, you do what's right for you. I can only guess, and this is a guess, this is not solid, you previously had fun with her because you had other options, no pressure, she was just an affair for you, just another fun girl, and you felt high from that, you were the man. Now that you think you got her exclusive there are other more important things than sex deep down in your mind. Take a deep breath though, more foreplay, less alcohol.
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Yeah i think that may have some part to play in it, i do feel slightly pressured following last nights situation

Not sure whether its worth me getting some V's maybe
 
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