"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Mixed up signals

johnathon_123

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Hey

So, I have been gaming this chick for.. not to long. She seems interested, but also *maybe* in a few other guys (right, its cool for her to play the field, like anyone else) Warning sign to ditch her, but I'll figure it out on my own.

So yeah, shes been inviting me to stuff, we have had a good time. She has practically begged me to go a few times. Sitting next to me in scary movies "just in case she needs to hold someones hand" things like that... I was at her parents house several days ago, and her mom said "hey, john you can sit in here with the ladies (it was her, her sister, and another cool girl) or you can go with the guys to the store if you would like" The girl of interest, samantha, said "nah, he likes it with the ladies" I took it as a sign of interest.

Anyway, everything was cool, you know the drill... till it goes bad.

Maybe.

Yesterday morning, I txted her. I had nothing going on at the time, figured I would say hi.

Me: Hey samantha whats up?
her: at the lake swimming, you?
Me: Nothing really going on here :D
her: What a bum... I am busy the rest of the day. Hanging out with some girls tonight. :D
Me: Thats cool. I like hanging out with girls too :)
Her: Sorry, you can't come.
Me: Aww... so your gonna make me miss out on all the hot girls?
Her: Yeah! Sorry punk!
Me: Now I am sad :(
Her: why not chill with some friends tonight?
Me: Good idea, my guy friends are sorta hot, makes up for the lack of hot chicks :)

No reply.

Ok- so I am not exactly cool that she automatically assumed I was trying to hook up with her, saying that shes busy all night. However, it seems like I caught her at a bad time. But overall, did I bomb this?

The main reason I decided to text her, was because she is the one always texting. Figured I'd show initiative and chase after something I want for once, rather than sit back... and not chase.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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johnathon_123

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real2 said:
You did try to build attraction more than most people would using text, but it came off as desperate and somewhat of a loner.

Oh... but I am desperate and a loner!

Nah, jk. My social life is fine, I think.


Can someone point out how a girl might interpret my texts then??
 

sexy_kuta

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lmfao
she laughed and thinks you are a fool for your last text.
first sign was "What a bum... I am busy the rest of the day. Hanging out with some girls tonight."

when you didnt even ASK her out or ask what she was doing.
that is the first sign of, dont push push to hard.
should have left it as that. remember, try to game girls only when you WITH them. ACTIONS OVER WORDS.

texting/phone calls. ALL that ****, cut it down, real down. save it only to setup dates.

your last text made her laugh thats why she didnt reply back.

what you need to do? is become aloof, stop chasing her, let her come to u now. she will wonder "why isnt he calling me or texting me anymore like he used to? maybe he found someone better?" she will become curious.
you gotta STAY ontop, right now you're not ontop
 

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In MY OPINION...she doesnt like you. Youre comical attempts were shot down. Look for other targets.
 
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