"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mixed up signals

johnathon_123

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Hey

So, I have been gaming this chick for.. not to long. She seems interested, but also *maybe* in a few other guys (right, its cool for her to play the field, like anyone else) Warning sign to ditch her, but I'll figure it out on my own.

So yeah, shes been inviting me to stuff, we have had a good time. She has practically begged me to go a few times. Sitting next to me in scary movies "just in case she needs to hold someones hand" things like that... I was at her parents house several days ago, and her mom said "hey, john you can sit in here with the ladies (it was her, her sister, and another cool girl) or you can go with the guys to the store if you would like" The girl of interest, samantha, said "nah, he likes it with the ladies" I took it as a sign of interest.

Anyway, everything was cool, you know the drill... till it goes bad.

Maybe.

Yesterday morning, I txted her. I had nothing going on at the time, figured I would say hi.

Me: Hey samantha whats up?
her: at the lake swimming, you?
Me: Nothing really going on here :D
her: What a bum... I am busy the rest of the day. Hanging out with some girls tonight. :D
Me: Thats cool. I like hanging out with girls too :)
Her: Sorry, you can't come.
Me: Aww... so your gonna make me miss out on all the hot girls?
Her: Yeah! Sorry punk!
Me: Now I am sad :(
Her: why not chill with some friends tonight?
Me: Good idea, my guy friends are sorta hot, makes up for the lack of hot chicks :)

No reply.

Ok- so I am not exactly cool that she automatically assumed I was trying to hook up with her, saying that shes busy all night. However, it seems like I caught her at a bad time. But overall, did I bomb this?

The main reason I decided to text her, was because she is the one always texting. Figured I'd show initiative and chase after something I want for once, rather than sit back... and not chase.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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real2 said:
You did try to build attraction more than most people would using text, but it came off as desperate and somewhat of a loner.

Oh... but I am desperate and a loner!

Nah, jk. My social life is fine, I think.


Can someone point out how a girl might interpret my texts then??
 

sexy_kuta

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lmfao
she laughed and thinks you are a fool for your last text.
first sign was "What a bum... I am busy the rest of the day. Hanging out with some girls tonight."

when you didnt even ASK her out or ask what she was doing.
that is the first sign of, dont push push to hard.
should have left it as that. remember, try to game girls only when you WITH them. ACTIONS OVER WORDS.

texting/phone calls. ALL that ****, cut it down, real down. save it only to setup dates.

your last text made her laugh thats why she didnt reply back.

what you need to do? is become aloof, stop chasing her, let her come to u now. she will wonder "why isnt he calling me or texting me anymore like he used to? maybe he found someone better?" she will become curious.
you gotta STAY ontop, right now you're not ontop
 

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In MY OPINION...she doesnt like you. Youre comical attempts were shot down. Look for other targets.
 
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