"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mixed signals

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okay so if you're getting mixed signals off a girl .. Would it be a good idea to call them out on it? Or maybe say something 'Can't figure you out' ? Or does this make you look weak ?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I think this forum and myself would recommend just to NEXT.... a mixed signals means NOT INTERESTED from her part but she'll take advantage of you.

Just walk away from the date.... action over words.

No point of making her hate you..
 

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Women who are interested don't give mixed signals. You are her backup plan at best.
 

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facing this with ex. last 2 months she kept 'communication' but the her-way rule.

Never clear, You need always to guess what she's saying, or better, what she is not saying. If you point to specific communication you want get clarified, she will maybe say, can we see each other to talk about this? But this is only postponing to a meetup that will never happen.

Upon last Saturday, I asked to face me with her reality. Again, avoiding, keeping the line, literally "maybe you don't understand what I'm saying" as you narrow her possibilities with you.
24h later she posted a picture on her Facebook (as profile pic!) with her new 'victim'.

I stop communication. Sure she will pop-up again when she needs ...

This has for me nothing to do about being girl or not. This just having disrespectful toxic relations with people and is not linked because female.

As I look backward now to my relationship with her, she spook often badly/negatively about people she had/have a close relationship with (new friend of her mother, another ex, her sisters).
If I look back, also in the relationship, the communication with her was always unclear. Actually, she doesn't communicate. She takes, and she leaves.

Good luck new boy with that ego you need to spoil.
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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There's no need to call her out on anything, just simply escalate.

If you escalate and she rebuffs you but keeps playing games, there is nothing to figure out. You have your answer, she won't fück you, which is good because now you can remove her from your life and find a girl who is interested and doesn't waste your time.

If you are confused make your intentions very clear and the path will illuminate itself.
 

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okay so if you're getting mixed signals off a girl .. Would it be a good idea to call them out on it?
Lol. No bro.

I don't think it's a good idea to tell a girl "You can't change your mind like that. Once you give me hints that you may want to have sex with me you HAVE TO follow through no matter what else I say or what else the market offers you. I need you to be constantly in love with me at all times or else I won't be able to focus."

Or maybe say something 'Can't figure you out' ? Or does this make you look weak ?
Yes bro. 100% it makes you look weak. You are not supposed to 'figure her out.' She is supposed to 'figure you out.' She is supposed to be confused. She is supposed to be wanting sex. She is supposed to get mixed signals.

Come on men. We are expected to lead the nation. Girls cannot be this hard to figure out.
 

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Lol. No bro.

I don't think it's a good idea to tell a girl "You can't change your mind like that. Once you give me hints that you may want to have sex with me you HAVE TO follow through no matter what else I say or what else the market offers you. I need you to be constantly in love with me at all times or else I won't be able to focus."



Yes bro. 100% it makes you look weak. You are not supposed to 'figure her out.' She is supposed to 'figure you out.' She is supposed to be confused. She is supposed to be wanting sex. She is supposed to get mixed signals.

Come on men. We are expected to lead the nation. Girls cannot be this hard to figure out.
That's the whole point...we aren't supposed to try and figure them out. We are supposed to do what we do. If they want to be a part of it, great. If not, then great. Either way it doesn't matter.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I'm still new to the whole ghosting game. Silence was never my strong suit. I'm at 70 NC on a 5 year off and on plate. It's tough and effective. I used to worry that ghosting guaranteed me failure so I would keep trying to no avail. I'm starting to see that the outcome is going to be the same either way - you don't get the girl - but at least this way I have some dignity. Having said that, I still question my strategy on this everyday. Fear of missing out or FOMO.
 

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okay so if you're getting mixed signals off a girl .. Would it be a good idea to call them out on it? Or maybe say something 'Can't figure you out' ? Or does this make you look weak ?
No you just become too busy for them snd move on.
 

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okay so if you're getting mixed signals off a girl .. Would it be a good idea to call them out on it? Or maybe say something 'Can't figure you out' ? Or does this make you look weak ?
How many times do I have to say it? If a woman does not submit she has low interest.

Women are designed to SUBMIT. This is why most women are sheep and followers. Remember how the women in France sided with the Nazi's after they were conquered. What does this tell you? Women submit. Period. So if submission is not happening.. that is a crystal clear sign that you have no power over that woman. No power means she is not interested.

MEN: If you cannot lead a woman you are WASTING YOUR TIME with her. Period.
 

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Anything but a yes is a sign of low interest.

Skip the fun & games you invariably get with mixed signals and move on to a high interest chick.

You do not want to become an orbiter.
 

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In my opinion the best medicine for fear of missing out=spin plates.

Get to the point where you've dated and fvucked enough of them to know that you're really not missing out. They're pretty much all the same.
True enough. Except this one freely gives anal. That's pushes her a little past "the same" on the sexual curve.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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If you get a mixed signal: Smile, say "okay," and stop taking it so seriously. If a girl does something you don't like or is confusing you, have the balls to know what you want to do next and do it.
 
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