Okay, so me and thisgirl hookuped twice already. I went to Florida for vacation and we've been texting. 1 night her text to me was when I asked how hernight was she responded...sucked betterif you were here. Then last nite I waslike I'm coming home firday! and shes likeOMG thats so long I miss you! However the days in between she suddenly doesn't answer soem text messages and just kinda leaves me hanging. Does this mean anything?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Mixed signals...PLEASE READ!
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Damian
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Stop thinking so hard. These aren't signals at all. She's probably just getting her own life on, just like you should. Enjoy your vacation and hook back up afterwards. There's no point in worrying.
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gizury
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dont text .... u lose all frame control and u cant plow trough on issues .
at the same time chicks rate that u not being a cheap skate and are serious about them
5 buck phone call to hook a perfect day 2 is better than a wasted 50c on no day 2 and eventual dissapointment
at the same time chicks rate that u not being a cheap skate and are serious about them
5 buck phone call to hook a perfect day 2 is better than a wasted 50c on no day 2 and eventual dissapointment
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hmm i think that raises an interesting question, is text messaging that big of a deal? If anything, I believe that text messaging used sparingly would mark you as more of a prize because it would indicate how you have other priorities instead of calling the girl and wasting your time.
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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Look. I thought I had a unique problem. I guess not.
When I saw this and another post... it amazed me how semi-alike they are.
Heres a background that shows where I'm coming from, okay?
Ive been talking to this girl for a while (never dated). She gave up on me once, and we made up... after we made up, things got really good, better than before. Alright, two days after we made up I had to leave for FL... and I was all "I really wanna see you before I go... pls pls pls." She wanted to to, but she couldn't at the time and responded with "Don't worry! I'll be here still. We don't need to rush things." ... I knew she was busy... especially when I was gone, I knew she had stuff to do. So we were lucky for that... the time to do things on our own. Now in FL, this is the FIRST time we talked everyday for a week at night *on the phone*. We missed each other and we told each other, even though we never even kissed or hugged (no kidding).
Long story short... we knew each other had other things to do than to talk to each other. You need to trust her, and give her her space. You obviously came off as a needy guy just now.
Tell me what you think of my advice.
When I saw this and another post... it amazed me how semi-alike they are.
Heres a background that shows where I'm coming from, okay?
Ive been talking to this girl for a while (never dated). She gave up on me once, and we made up... after we made up, things got really good, better than before. Alright, two days after we made up I had to leave for FL... and I was all "I really wanna see you before I go... pls pls pls." She wanted to to, but she couldn't at the time and responded with "Don't worry! I'll be here still. We don't need to rush things." ... I knew she was busy... especially when I was gone, I knew she had stuff to do. So we were lucky for that... the time to do things on our own. Now in FL, this is the FIRST time we talked everyday for a week at night *on the phone*. We missed each other and we told each other, even though we never even kissed or hugged (no kidding).
Long story short... we knew each other had other things to do than to talk to each other. You need to trust her, and give her her space. You obviously came off as a needy guy just now.
Tell me what you think of my advice.