"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Anpha

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situation:
- matched 18 year old girl on tinder
- doesn’t use phone much, 12 hour replies constantly
- large gaps between texting, but sends like 10+ messages at a time
- interest level seems moderate
- claimed to be busy and flaked the day before date (exam and finals period)

Am I overthinking or displaying signs of oneitis cause I feel like i’m getting run around. The 12 hour replies are honestly abnornal and ****ty but I think I want to give it a chance. She flaked a day before first date because of upcoming exams and study load. Played it off cool and suggested another time, as I want to give it one more chance.

Am I right for doing this? She’s told me to wait till her exams are done or some bs. From what i’ve read on sosuave and my general intuition I feel I shouldn’t wait on woman in general, but this could be legit. What would you do?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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attention wh0re with low IL in you. Next.
 
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If you really want to, hit her up when the exams period stops with a simple "Hey i'm going to (insert some place here) on Tuesday wanna join me"?. She says yes, sweet you got yourself a date, she says no don't contact her again simple as.
 
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Thanks for the advice guys. I knew it would be bad to focus attention on this one chick, but it’s someone different than I usually date (quite younger, also unexperienced). Will hit up other chicks/study and hit her up after exams.
 
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Anpha said:
situation:
- matched 18 year old girl on tinder
- doesn’t use phone much, 12 hour replies constantly
- large gaps between texting, but sends like 10+ messages at a time
- interest level seems moderate
- claimed to be busy and flaked the day before date (exam and finals period)
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18 year olds aren't busy
18 year olds use their phone all day
people who don't use their phone much would meet guys in a coffee shop, not on a phone app.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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marmel75

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Should not have suggested a time immediately...would have waited a week or do of you went thst route.

Stop thinking about her and start finding and dating other women. Stop being lazy.
 
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