"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Heretolearn

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I share with you a lesson.

I always subscribed to the understanding that relationships were hard. Thus I put up with a lot of junk because thats 'what you do in a relationship'.

Thanks to some great posters on this site I am learning that relationships are not hard. Life is hard yes. Thats why you should not add to the difficulty with the wrong persons for you. With the right persons, life will still be hard, but you are in it together, as happy as can be in that particular moment and circumstances and working towards a better to-morrow.

Heed thee well my friends!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Victory Unlimited

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Thanks Yendor.


Well said. I needed that positive reinforcement.

Hell, I needed it YESTERDAY!!!!

Where the hell WERE you, Man????? LOL



Peace...one day.
 

joekerr31

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you got it man. life is hard enough without toxic people in your life sapping your energy. unfortunately now a days it seems most people are out for themselves.

anyway, what will blow your mind is one day when you've got a lot of it all figured out you'll find out that LIFE is pretty easy also.

hehe.

but it takes some time to figure life out enough to the point where it gets easy.

im getting there, but not there yet :)
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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yendor28 said:
...Thanks to some great posters on this site I am learning that relationships are not hard. Life is hard yes.
:up: Nice to see a positive post. Ever consider that life is what you make of it?
 

Latinoman

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What make "relationships" hard are

1- Bad choice of partner (long post to describe a bad choice as it doesn’t necessary means choosing a “bad woman”, but more of choosing somebody that is incompatible with you)

2- The fact that we must compromise some things. After all, we are all different, so in order to find a balance in a relationship we must compromise some things. There is no way around that. And that on itself is a little hard.

However, as long as BOTH people compromise…and as long as BOTH are not compromising issues as they relate to values/morals/self-respect…then things tend to be alright (assuming you pick the right partner).

I like your positive outlook. However, don’t kid yourself into thinking that having a successful relationship does not require some level of effort. But success starts with having a positive outlook at things. And based on this thread...you are already there.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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