"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Heretolearn

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I share with you a lesson.

I always subscribed to the understanding that relationships were hard. Thus I put up with a lot of junk because thats 'what you do in a relationship'.

Thanks to some great posters on this site I am learning that relationships are not hard. Life is hard yes. Thats why you should not add to the difficulty with the wrong persons for you. With the right persons, life will still be hard, but you are in it together, as happy as can be in that particular moment and circumstances and working towards a better to-morrow.

Heed thee well my friends!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Victory Unlimited

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Thanks Yendor.


Well said. I needed that positive reinforcement.

Hell, I needed it YESTERDAY!!!!

Where the hell WERE you, Man????? LOL



Peace...one day.
 

joekerr31

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you got it man. life is hard enough without toxic people in your life sapping your energy. unfortunately now a days it seems most people are out for themselves.

anyway, what will blow your mind is one day when you've got a lot of it all figured out you'll find out that LIFE is pretty easy also.

hehe.

but it takes some time to figure life out enough to the point where it gets easy.

im getting there, but not there yet :)
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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yendor28 said:
...Thanks to some great posters on this site I am learning that relationships are not hard. Life is hard yes.
:up: Nice to see a positive post. Ever consider that life is what you make of it?
 

Latinoman

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What make "relationships" hard are

1- Bad choice of partner (long post to describe a bad choice as it doesn’t necessary means choosing a “bad woman”, but more of choosing somebody that is incompatible with you)

2- The fact that we must compromise some things. After all, we are all different, so in order to find a balance in a relationship we must compromise some things. There is no way around that. And that on itself is a little hard.

However, as long as BOTH people compromise…and as long as BOTH are not compromising issues as they relate to values/morals/self-respect…then things tend to be alright (assuming you pick the right partner).

I like your positive outlook. However, don’t kid yourself into thinking that having a successful relationship does not require some level of effort. But success starts with having a positive outlook at things. And based on this thread...you are already there.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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