"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Heretolearn

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I share with you a lesson.

I always subscribed to the understanding that relationships were hard. Thus I put up with a lot of junk because thats 'what you do in a relationship'.

Thanks to some great posters on this site I am learning that relationships are not hard. Life is hard yes. Thats why you should not add to the difficulty with the wrong persons for you. With the right persons, life will still be hard, but you are in it together, as happy as can be in that particular moment and circumstances and working towards a better to-morrow.

Heed thee well my friends!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Victory Unlimited

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Thanks Yendor.


Well said. I needed that positive reinforcement.

Hell, I needed it YESTERDAY!!!!

Where the hell WERE you, Man????? LOL



Peace...one day.
 

joekerr31

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you got it man. life is hard enough without toxic people in your life sapping your energy. unfortunately now a days it seems most people are out for themselves.

anyway, what will blow your mind is one day when you've got a lot of it all figured out you'll find out that LIFE is pretty easy also.

hehe.

but it takes some time to figure life out enough to the point where it gets easy.

im getting there, but not there yet :)
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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yendor28 said:
...Thanks to some great posters on this site I am learning that relationships are not hard. Life is hard yes.
:up: Nice to see a positive post. Ever consider that life is what you make of it?
 

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What make "relationships" hard are

1- Bad choice of partner (long post to describe a bad choice as it doesn’t necessary means choosing a “bad woman”, but more of choosing somebody that is incompatible with you)

2- The fact that we must compromise some things. After all, we are all different, so in order to find a balance in a relationship we must compromise some things. There is no way around that. And that on itself is a little hard.

However, as long as BOTH people compromise…and as long as BOTH are not compromising issues as they relate to values/morals/self-respect…then things tend to be alright (assuming you pick the right partner).

I like your positive outlook. However, don’t kid yourself into thinking that having a successful relationship does not require some level of effort. But success starts with having a positive outlook at things. And based on this thread...you are already there.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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