"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mission #1

everywomanshero

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I have to decided to suggest a series of missions guys can do. I have tried to make them very applicable and useful, but in some cases you won't see the reason why you do them until it;'s already complete. (if you already read my previous post related to this, here is a clearer explanation without all my own personal obversations and biases).

Mission #1:

Find 6 advertisements from a magazine that appeals to women such as COSMO

See if you can find any of the following

1) Appeal to or creation of needs.. love, status, aesthetics, safety, security, etc.

2) social or prestige suggestion.. like you should buy something because others do or the ad suggest a famous (or expert) person does.

3) loaded words and images... attractive people?, images of positive social situations? buzzwords.

Then do the same with male magazine ads. Compare and contrast the differences. What is going on here? Feel free to post questions or observations, but each person should do the exercise before reading any comments.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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LA_Chico

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this sounds like s hit I did for a class at Cal-State Fullerton bro!

BTW, GO TITANS!
 

ValleyDJing

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LA_Chico said:
this sounds like s hit I did for a class at Cal-State Fullerton bro!

BTW, GO TITANS!
No offense, but do you say "bro" in every single post you make?
 
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