"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Missing Them

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I've found a solution to most of the things that bother me, but there is one that I can't seem to shake. Now I've gotten past AFCness, I've dated my share of women, and I'm on the right track as far as my life is concerned. I have a wonderful girlfriend that I love and might end up marrying one day depending on how things go. I know some of you don't approve of that, but to each his own. Anyway, our relationship is healthy. We give each other space, we have a lot in common, I don't put her up on a pedastal, if she does something I don't like I let her know and vis versa. We're happy and the closest we have ever been, but lately when she's not around I miss her sometimes, although it's not in a needy, longing kind of way. Like when I'm off doing something and having a good time, I think about her not being there and how much more fun it would be if she was, then I feel just a little disappointed that she's not. I mean I don't dwell on it I just quit thinking about it and then I don't feel that way anymore, but those thoughts come up every now and then and I've never had thoughts like that before even during my AFC days. I know it's not any AFC tendencies coming back because I'm happy, I love where I'm at in my life and I'm not afraid of losing her, I know she's not going anywhere because I keep her interested. I'm just wondering for you guys who have been in a healthy serious relationship, is it normal to miss them a little sometimes? I'm just curious.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Rata Blanca

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That's what happens when you love someone. It's normal.

Or if you want the boring answer your body is craving the hormonal reactions (oxytocin, dopamine, endorphins, adrenaline, etc) your girlfriend unleashes when she is with you.
 

KontrollerX

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Yeah its normal man.

Plus you're in a good mindset about things by keeping the neediness and AFC at bay by fighting that garbage off constantly.
 
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