"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Missing Them

Epic

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I've found a solution to most of the things that bother me, but there is one that I can't seem to shake. Now I've gotten past AFCness, I've dated my share of women, and I'm on the right track as far as my life is concerned. I have a wonderful girlfriend that I love and might end up marrying one day depending on how things go. I know some of you don't approve of that, but to each his own. Anyway, our relationship is healthy. We give each other space, we have a lot in common, I don't put her up on a pedastal, if she does something I don't like I let her know and vis versa. We're happy and the closest we have ever been, but lately when she's not around I miss her sometimes, although it's not in a needy, longing kind of way. Like when I'm off doing something and having a good time, I think about her not being there and how much more fun it would be if she was, then I feel just a little disappointed that she's not. I mean I don't dwell on it I just quit thinking about it and then I don't feel that way anymore, but those thoughts come up every now and then and I've never had thoughts like that before even during my AFC days. I know it's not any AFC tendencies coming back because I'm happy, I love where I'm at in my life and I'm not afraid of losing her, I know she's not going anywhere because I keep her interested. I'm just wondering for you guys who have been in a healthy serious relationship, is it normal to miss them a little sometimes? I'm just curious.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Rata Blanca

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That's what happens when you love someone. It's normal.

Or if you want the boring answer your body is craving the hormonal reactions (oxytocin, dopamine, endorphins, adrenaline, etc) your girlfriend unleashes when she is with you.
 

KontrollerX

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Yeah its normal man.

Plus you're in a good mindset about things by keeping the neediness and AFC at bay by fighting that garbage off constantly.
 
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