"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Missing Them

Epic

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I've found a solution to most of the things that bother me, but there is one that I can't seem to shake. Now I've gotten past AFCness, I've dated my share of women, and I'm on the right track as far as my life is concerned. I have a wonderful girlfriend that I love and might end up marrying one day depending on how things go. I know some of you don't approve of that, but to each his own. Anyway, our relationship is healthy. We give each other space, we have a lot in common, I don't put her up on a pedastal, if she does something I don't like I let her know and vis versa. We're happy and the closest we have ever been, but lately when she's not around I miss her sometimes, although it's not in a needy, longing kind of way. Like when I'm off doing something and having a good time, I think about her not being there and how much more fun it would be if she was, then I feel just a little disappointed that she's not. I mean I don't dwell on it I just quit thinking about it and then I don't feel that way anymore, but those thoughts come up every now and then and I've never had thoughts like that before even during my AFC days. I know it's not any AFC tendencies coming back because I'm happy, I love where I'm at in my life and I'm not afraid of losing her, I know she's not going anywhere because I keep her interested. I'm just wondering for you guys who have been in a healthy serious relationship, is it normal to miss them a little sometimes? I'm just curious.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Rata Blanca

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That's what happens when you love someone. It's normal.

Or if you want the boring answer your body is craving the hormonal reactions (oxytocin, dopamine, endorphins, adrenaline, etc) your girlfriend unleashes when she is with you.
 

KontrollerX

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Yeah its normal man.

Plus you're in a good mindset about things by keeping the neediness and AFC at bay by fighting that garbage off constantly.
 
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