"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Missed a girls call

harkkam08

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I just got a number from a girl in my class. She just called but I missed her call I never called her before. Should I call her back today or call her tomorrow?

I like her,I wanna see where I can take this.

I was thinking I should wait to call her back. Im not really in the mood to make like chit chat. Plus she might talk to me about school work and lol I havent looked at it. SO i thought Id call her tomorrow when Ive looked at it so she doesnt think im a total dumbass
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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CantTouchMyStyle

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Why are you wasting server space with this thread?

SHE CALLED YOU.

Call her back whenever the fvck u want.
 

jophil28

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Call her back - she called you and she deserves a return . Forget the mindgames . Waiting till tomorrow is not going to work in your favor because you have not created high enough value YET.
Waiting till tomorrow is more likely to portray you as a slacker and a dumbass who does not have his act together.
 

harkkam08

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Thanks man. yeah i had a gut feeling that since IL was not high enough it wouldnt come off as right but I just wasnt sure.

I called but she didnt pick up. didnt leave a msg.

I shouldnt txt her right?

My gut says not to, it comes off as too pleasing by saying "Sorry i missed your call I was busy"

Is it on her now to call me back?

Feels like phone tag
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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the305

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Please STOP with the mind games. If you missed a call from one of your buddies, act the SAME exact way.
 

Kailex

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harkkam08 said:
Thanks man. yeah i had a gut feeling that since IL was not high enough it wouldnt come off as right but I just wasnt sure.

I called but she didnt pick up. didnt leave a msg.

I shouldnt txt her right?

My gut says not to, it comes off as too pleasing by saying "Sorry i missed your call I was busy"

Is it on her now to call me back?

Feels like phone tag
It's called COMMON COURTESY.
If someone calls you, you call THEM BACK.

Jesus Christ.

DON'T text her. I swear some of these people really should be required to read the DJ Bible before they sign up.

So what if it's phone tag, at least she's CALLING.
 

CuriousGirl

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I'm not one to judge but it seems like you are reading some of these tips but not understanding them or putting them in the right context.
 

beaker

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From the tone and mention of homework I think this guy needs the HS DJB.
Could be a freshy in college tho.
 
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