"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mismatched couples: What do you think?

betterthandead

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Sometimes you see a skinny/skinnier guy with a fat girl. Sometimes you see a gay looking/emo/goth guy with a hot girl. Sometimes you see a nice looking girl going out with a loser.

What goes on in your mind when you see a seemingly mismatched couple?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Opposites attract.
 

drtk

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betterthandead said:
Sometimes you see a skinny/skinnier guy with a fat girl. Sometimes you see a gay looking/emo/goth guy with a hot girl. Sometimes you see a nice looking girl going out with a loser.

What goes on in your mind when you see a seemingly mismatched couple?
"If he was able to pull that off, I sure can do much better." :D
 

AKA FLEX

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I don't think much of it. Different strokes for different folks. I just concentrate on my own pousse.
 

PlayToWin

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I used to think about it, and be like "man what does that girl see in him, I am such a better guy, therefore she should be noticing me" But that was when I was AFC. I still had the mentality, that girls would love me so as long as they got to know the real me and how nice I could be.

Wow, so glad I am not that AFC guy I used to be. Now I see mismatched couples where a hot girl is with who seems to be a goofy guy and realize that obviously that guy had the confidence, prowess, and overall DJism to get that girl, and I realize that for the most part I should either learn from it or at least respect it. I used to think that the girl didn't know how cute/hot she was. Now I realize that the guy is probably at least a pretty good DJ and she would rather have that, than a better looking AFC. It actually gives me motivation, because If I am more attractive then the guy, and I fell like my DJ skills are better, than thoeretically I could steal his girl(even if I don't pursue it) or get a hotter one.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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