"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mind games girls like to play

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So I met this chick, couple week before. Got her number, and stuff like that. Said that she doesnt like dates but I seemed like a cool guy so she would be up for something. Tried to set a date, got a flake reply due to errands. I was like ok. Texted her bit more, got no reply. Sent a text message saying lmk if you are busy/not interested. Got a sorry! Im just busy yada yada. Asks about how I am. I was thinking ok. Replied back. No reply.

Next day, Im like thinking she isn't interested, Im studying and she sees me. I get a message saying "she saw me etc". I sent some bantered stuff back. Then said lets meet. No reply.

What on earth is happening ?

Proper response is to continue gaming other women but this ones hot, not gonna lie. Is she crazy ? Playing nun on me ?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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@shouldbefun stay off the damn phone brother! Only use it to see up dates that's why she is losing interest because you text back and forth. When she flaked you should of said ok and left it at that until she offered a counter date or reinitiated contact.
 
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@shouldbefun the constant bait? 2 reasons.. she is a attention seeking immature little brat who only wants validation. Or she is just screwing with your head.. either case drop that drama queen and date someone who is worth the time.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Once she starts playing games experiment with mind ****ing her. Keyword here is experiment, by this time you should have a rough draft of what might turn her on and off. Next thing is don't mind **** yourself otherwise you end up with blue balls. The challenge is the experimenting you see how simple this is? Don't let fear mind **** you, **** fear in the but! Challenges are exciting, so is the unknown of your experimental results so what if you were wrong you move on and try again
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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shouldbefun said:
Yeah I figured, but why the constant bait ?
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Because you give her free attention/validation and she knows that all she needs to do is send you a text if she decides that she does want to go out with you.

The only mind game here is the one that you're playing on yourself by refusing to see low interest.

That is exactly why I do not advise any man to ever reach out after a chick flakes or cancels a date without a specific reschedule time. Reaching back out in a week or two is only going to put you right back in the situation that you're in now. Confused.

Its been a while since a woman has confused me, but from what I can remember, I didnt like it so I dont put myself back in that state. She is either on board for drinks and shows up or I am dust in the wind.
 
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shouldbefun said:
So I met this chick, couple week before. Got her number, and stuff like that. Said that she doesnt like dates but I seemed like a cool guy so she would be up for something. Tried to set a date, got a flake reply due to errands. I was like ok. Texted her bit more, got no reply. Sent a text message saying lmk if you are busy/not interested. Got a sorry! Im just busy yada yada. Asks about how I am. I was thinking ok. Replied back. No reply.

Next day, Im like thinking she isn't interested, Im studying and she sees me. I get a message saying "she saw me etc". I sent some bantered stuff back. Then said lets meet. No reply.

What on earth is happening ?

Proper response is to continue gaming other women but this ones hot, not gonna lie. Is she crazy ? Playing nun on me ?
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You are desperate and she knows it
 
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shouldbefun said:
Yeah I figured, but why the constant bait ?
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Because girls want three things: 1) sex with hot guys, 2) entertainment and validation, 3) resources and security. You're one of the men she has for #2.

Women who want you help you and make it easy for you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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