Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Just to clear that one up.speed dawg said:I do them standing because it helps strengthen the lower back stabilizing muscles. Anything to knock out two birds with one stone and shorten my workout!
No, it's my lower back. Yes, it works the entire core. But I like it and do it (stand up) because it strengthens my lower back when I do overhead moves.MrS said:Just to clear that one up.
First, there is no such thing as stabilizing muscles.
Second, it shouldn't be all lower back, it should be CORE. That's front, sides, back. Keeping the core tight is essential.
So in short, it's not your lower back stabilizing muscles, it's your core that gets some stability work.
MrS said:First, there is no such thing as stabilizing muscles.
Slightly violent reply, there, mrRuckus. You took it the wrong way.mrRuckus said:Don't be assinine, little punk.
And what is your core composed of?MrS said:Just to clear that one up.
First, there is no such thing as stabilizing muscles.
Second, it shouldn't be all lower back, it should be CORE. That's front, sides, back. Keeping the core tight is essential.
So in short, it's not your lower back stabilizing muscles, it's your core that gets some stability work.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
The hip/leg push serves a purpose though. If you start on your clavicle, then you are in a position of very little leverage to use just your shoulders to press the weight up.mrRuckus said:Rippetoe has a slight lean back in the form he teaches. It's not planned on being there but a slight one he says is just fine. There are even videos on youtube of him teaching with a little hip thrust (not quads like a push press).
Typically i stand there with my legs completely stiff and contracted as well as my glutes and it's really hard to lean back to much like that. The glutes thing is the same thing you are supposed to do on the deadlift which helps prevent you from extending too far backwards when you reach the top.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Caferacer said:The hip/leg push serves a purpose though. If you start on your clavicle, then you are in a position of very little leverage to use just your shoulders to press the weight up.
I typically lean back simply because it is too awkward to hold a large amount of weight any place but right over your feet. This is also why I have a 'pop' off the bottom of the rep, so let me have the chance to get the weight up past my clavicle.
Put that way, I think we are both walking about the same thing. There is a lean in the beginning, but to get up under the weight there is a straightening of the back like you said. For some reason I thought you were talking about holding the bar with the weight over your toes trying to avoid any lean. I think Kickureface is speaking of it this way. There is a difference between over your toes and your whole foot, I just didn't write clearly enough. I guess because I always set up for push presses like I am doing front squats.mrRuckus said:I just haven't bothered to learn the lift with any sort of hip thrust yet. It's really not natural to do it like a push press would be. Even in the videos the one guy had trouble doing it with Rippetoe standing right there.
The bar should be moving in a straight line over your feet. When ISN'T it right over your feet? My clavicle is over my feet... It's your upper back and head that move to get out of the way of the bar. I don't move my lower back to do that. This is really simple to demonstrate if you just use the bar. The only reason people lean back is because it shifts more of the lift to their pecs, which makes the lift easier.
What i always see guys in the gym doing is holding the bar out in front of their face. As soon as it's clear of my head i'm moving my head forward under the bar.