That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Just to clear that one up.speed dawg said:I do them standing because it helps strengthen the lower back stabilizing muscles. Anything to knock out two birds with one stone and shorten my workout!
No, it's my lower back. Yes, it works the entire core. But I like it and do it (stand up) because it strengthens my lower back when I do overhead moves.MrS said:Just to clear that one up.
First, there is no such thing as stabilizing muscles.
Second, it shouldn't be all lower back, it should be CORE. That's front, sides, back. Keeping the core tight is essential.
So in short, it's not your lower back stabilizing muscles, it's your core that gets some stability work.
MrS said:First, there is no such thing as stabilizing muscles.
Slightly violent reply, there, mrRuckus. You took it the wrong way.mrRuckus said:Don't be assinine, little punk.
And what is your core composed of?MrS said:Just to clear that one up.
First, there is no such thing as stabilizing muscles.
Second, it shouldn't be all lower back, it should be CORE. That's front, sides, back. Keeping the core tight is essential.
So in short, it's not your lower back stabilizing muscles, it's your core that gets some stability work.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The hip/leg push serves a purpose though. If you start on your clavicle, then you are in a position of very little leverage to use just your shoulders to press the weight up.mrRuckus said:Rippetoe has a slight lean back in the form he teaches. It's not planned on being there but a slight one he says is just fine. There are even videos on youtube of him teaching with a little hip thrust (not quads like a push press).
Typically i stand there with my legs completely stiff and contracted as well as my glutes and it's really hard to lean back to much like that. The glutes thing is the same thing you are supposed to do on the deadlift which helps prevent you from extending too far backwards when you reach the top.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Caferacer said:The hip/leg push serves a purpose though. If you start on your clavicle, then you are in a position of very little leverage to use just your shoulders to press the weight up.
I typically lean back simply because it is too awkward to hold a large amount of weight any place but right over your feet. This is also why I have a 'pop' off the bottom of the rep, so let me have the chance to get the weight up past my clavicle.
Put that way, I think we are both walking about the same thing. There is a lean in the beginning, but to get up under the weight there is a straightening of the back like you said. For some reason I thought you were talking about holding the bar with the weight over your toes trying to avoid any lean. I think Kickureface is speaking of it this way. There is a difference between over your toes and your whole foot, I just didn't write clearly enough. I guess because I always set up for push presses like I am doing front squats.mrRuckus said:I just haven't bothered to learn the lift with any sort of hip thrust yet. It's really not natural to do it like a push press would be. Even in the videos the one guy had trouble doing it with Rippetoe standing right there.
The bar should be moving in a straight line over your feet. When ISN'T it right over your feet? My clavicle is over my feet... It's your upper back and head that move to get out of the way of the bar. I don't move my lower back to do that. This is really simple to demonstrate if you just use the bar. The only reason people lean back is because it shifts more of the lift to their pecs, which makes the lift easier.
What i always see guys in the gym doing is holding the bar out in front of their face. As soon as it's clear of my head i'm moving my head forward under the bar.