This is a girl I never got together with, we were just really close. I just never could work up the guts to tell her how I felt, and I eventually gave up when she stated dating one of my friends (not a close one though). We eventually drifted apart when I went to college, and I've maybe seen her a couple times in the last year or 2. Anyway, I was talking to her online and asked her if she wanted to do something next week. She asked me when, but unfortunately I don't know my schedule next week so I told her I wasn't sure yet. She wants me to call or text her when I find out. I'm not 100% what to do if I meet up with her, if she was a new girl I'd be fine but we have history and there's no way she doesn't know I like/liked her (and probably knows I have my own agenda for meeting up with her). If you guys have ever gone through this I'd love some advice. Thanks.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Might possibly be going out with the girl I used to be in love with?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Dont get your hopes up brah.
Just go with the intention of hanging with an old friend. Show her how much more alpha you are these days. Dont confess your undying love to her or some other BS. if you've progressed and changed for the better she might be like "oh wow look what he turned into!" if you are the same dont expect different results then what previously occurred.
Just go with the intention of hanging with an old friend. Show her how much more alpha you are these days. Dont confess your undying love to her or some other BS. if you've progressed and changed for the better she might be like "oh wow look what he turned into!" if you are the same dont expect different results then what previously occurred.
Congrats! You've got a whole new free pass to seduce her again!
It's actually a great try for a do-over.
You were too ashamed or scared to lay it on the line last time. Well, you get a mulligan! You didn't even KNOW this retry was coming, so what's the big deal?
Come in strong (not pushy, but confident). Be happy.
It's actually a great try for a do-over.
You were too ashamed or scared to lay it on the line last time. Well, you get a mulligan! You didn't even KNOW this retry was coming, so what's the big deal?
Come in strong (not pushy, but confident). Be happy.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Just have fun and don't stress (like you seem to be doing).
Treat her like a new girl. You said it yourself, you haven't talked to her in ages. Hence, do you even know her anymore? (other than on the physical aspect).
Chances are, you know nothing of who she is now and what she has become. Same goes for her towards you: you've changed, and she doesn't know how.
Consider this a new beginning, a new opportunity at getting to know someone
this means, don't stress, take it easy, and just have fun!
Treat her like any other girl, and have other things to do
Treat her like a new girl. You said it yourself, you haven't talked to her in ages. Hence, do you even know her anymore? (other than on the physical aspect).
Chances are, you know nothing of who she is now and what she has become. Same goes for her towards you: you've changed, and she doesn't know how.
Consider this a new beginning, a new opportunity at getting to know someone
this means, don't stress, take it easy, and just have fun!Treat her like any other girl, and have other things to do
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
a) know your schedule BEFORE setting up a date (dont be unsure)
b) Dont say "lets do something"... take charge & invite her out to do a certain thing
c) play off the previous "crush"... dont deny it, but if she asks about it, just say it was just a little crush.
d) dress good, smell good, be alpha & confident, smile often, eye contact, etc. do it bro
b) Dont say "lets do something"... take charge & invite her out to do a certain thing
c) play off the previous "crush"... dont deny it, but if she asks about it, just say it was just a little crush.
d) dress good, smell good, be alpha & confident, smile often, eye contact, etc. do it bro