This is a girl I never got together with, we were just really close. I just never could work up the guts to tell her how I felt, and I eventually gave up when she stated dating one of my friends (not a close one though). We eventually drifted apart when I went to college, and I've maybe seen her a couple times in the last year or 2. Anyway, I was talking to her online and asked her if she wanted to do something next week. She asked me when, but unfortunately I don't know my schedule next week so I told her I wasn't sure yet. She wants me to call or text her when I find out. I'm not 100% what to do if I meet up with her, if she was a new girl I'd be fine but we have history and there's no way she doesn't know I like/liked her (and probably knows I have my own agenda for meeting up with her). If you guys have ever gone through this I'd love some advice. Thanks.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Might possibly be going out with the girl I used to be in love with?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dont get your hopes up brah.
Just go with the intention of hanging with an old friend. Show her how much more alpha you are these days. Dont confess your undying love to her or some other BS. if you've progressed and changed for the better she might be like "oh wow look what he turned into!" if you are the same dont expect different results then what previously occurred.
Just go with the intention of hanging with an old friend. Show her how much more alpha you are these days. Dont confess your undying love to her or some other BS. if you've progressed and changed for the better she might be like "oh wow look what he turned into!" if you are the same dont expect different results then what previously occurred.
Congrats! You've got a whole new free pass to seduce her again!
It's actually a great try for a do-over.
You were too ashamed or scared to lay it on the line last time. Well, you get a mulligan! You didn't even KNOW this retry was coming, so what's the big deal?
Come in strong (not pushy, but confident). Be happy.
It's actually a great try for a do-over.
You were too ashamed or scared to lay it on the line last time. Well, you get a mulligan! You didn't even KNOW this retry was coming, so what's the big deal?
Come in strong (not pushy, but confident). Be happy.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Just have fun and don't stress (like you seem to be doing).
Treat her like a new girl. You said it yourself, you haven't talked to her in ages. Hence, do you even know her anymore? (other than on the physical aspect).
Chances are, you know nothing of who she is now and what she has become. Same goes for her towards you: you've changed, and she doesn't know how.
Consider this a new beginning, a new opportunity at getting to know someone
this means, don't stress, take it easy, and just have fun!
Treat her like any other girl, and have other things to do
Treat her like a new girl. You said it yourself, you haven't talked to her in ages. Hence, do you even know her anymore? (other than on the physical aspect).
Chances are, you know nothing of who she is now and what she has become. Same goes for her towards you: you've changed, and she doesn't know how.
Consider this a new beginning, a new opportunity at getting to know someone
this means, don't stress, take it easy, and just have fun!Treat her like any other girl, and have other things to do
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
a) know your schedule BEFORE setting up a date (dont be unsure)
b) Dont say "lets do something"... take charge & invite her out to do a certain thing
c) play off the previous "crush"... dont deny it, but if she asks about it, just say it was just a little crush.
d) dress good, smell good, be alpha & confident, smile often, eye contact, etc. do it bro
b) Dont say "lets do something"... take charge & invite her out to do a certain thing
c) play off the previous "crush"... dont deny it, but if she asks about it, just say it was just a little crush.
d) dress good, smell good, be alpha & confident, smile often, eye contact, etc. do it bro