You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I am not drinking very much milk anymore. In fact, under 2 cups a day. I just put a little bit in when I eat the raw egss so it tastes good. But I did eat a decent amount of junk over the holidays. Cookies, pies, cheesecake, chocolates, you name it. But now I am back on my own so these temptations are not even available. I did take pics the first couple of weeks. I will get some news ones this week and compare. I have not been measuring my waist, but I have noticed my pants fit a little looser around the waist.Quagmire911 said:There isn't much point in weighing yourself so much due to fluctuations. I'd say once a week max is fine, some say even less.
I would also start taking your waist measurement when you take your weight, and take a picture once every 4 weeks or so. This will help you make sure you are gaining muscle and not fat. You've got to be careful of this, espcially with the milk.
Don't know if I've asked, what cardio are you doing?
Keep it up,
Quagmire
Wow I over looked this in your log. Yes... start doing 30min of cardio first thing in the morning on 3 of your non lifting days. I recommend using the elliptical and keeping your heart rate in the 130-150range for the entire duration.Mex said:As far as cardio, I am not doing anything. Should I be doing that when trying to bulk up?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
By first thing in the morning, do you mean before I eat anything? Because I can not get to the gym before my first meal due to the bus schedule. But I can get there before meal 2. Does this matter?EFFORT said:Wow I over looked this in your log. Yes... start doing 30min of cardio first thing in the morning on 3 of your non lifting days. I recommend using the elliptical and keeping your heart rate in the 130-150range for the entire duration.
Okay, I just saw the debate in the "where to start" thread. The consensus seems to not eat a full meal before cardio, but maybe an orange is okay.Mex said:By first thing in the morning, do you mean before I eat anything? Because I can not get to the gym before my first meal due to the bus schedule. But I can get there before meal 2. Does this matter?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.