That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I am not drinking very much milk anymore. In fact, under 2 cups a day. I just put a little bit in when I eat the raw egss so it tastes good. But I did eat a decent amount of junk over the holidays. Cookies, pies, cheesecake, chocolates, you name it. But now I am back on my own so these temptations are not even available. I did take pics the first couple of weeks. I will get some news ones this week and compare. I have not been measuring my waist, but I have noticed my pants fit a little looser around the waist.Quagmire911 said:There isn't much point in weighing yourself so much due to fluctuations. I'd say once a week max is fine, some say even less.
I would also start taking your waist measurement when you take your weight, and take a picture once every 4 weeks or so. This will help you make sure you are gaining muscle and not fat. You've got to be careful of this, espcially with the milk.
Don't know if I've asked, what cardio are you doing?
Keep it up,
Quagmire
Wow I over looked this in your log. Yes... start doing 30min of cardio first thing in the morning on 3 of your non lifting days. I recommend using the elliptical and keeping your heart rate in the 130-150range for the entire duration.Mex said:As far as cardio, I am not doing anything. Should I be doing that when trying to bulk up?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
By first thing in the morning, do you mean before I eat anything? Because I can not get to the gym before my first meal due to the bus schedule. But I can get there before meal 2. Does this matter?EFFORT said:Wow I over looked this in your log. Yes... start doing 30min of cardio first thing in the morning on 3 of your non lifting days. I recommend using the elliptical and keeping your heart rate in the 130-150range for the entire duration.
Okay, I just saw the debate in the "where to start" thread. The consensus seems to not eat a full meal before cardio, but maybe an orange is okay.Mex said:By first thing in the morning, do you mean before I eat anything? Because I can not get to the gym before my first meal due to the bus schedule. But I can get there before meal 2. Does this matter?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.