I was typing this up in another thread that suddenly disappeared, but I think this is something that needs to be posted.
Why?
Because women have a dualistic mating strategy!!! and they play the game differently with you whether you have higher Lover Potential or Provider Potential--to the extent that most girls have two entirely different personalities depending on what algorithm they put you in. What you're seeing now is a massive backlash against men who represented Provider Potential--whether that be money, or emotional support, or career connection--and tried to switch lanes & sexualize while never following through on that provisioning.
Girls might fvck a Provider--but it's not sex for pleasure, it's sex in exchange for resources. The fact that Harvey Weinstein, Bill Cosby, Matt Lauer & company didn't grasp that distinction proves that they hadn't ever experienced desire sex, confirming their low sexual status, which is why they got crucified & dumped while someone like Trump gets elected president in the face of similar allegations (not that I think Trump is a paragon of sexuality or anyone to model yourself after--but he has enough qualities that women are aroused by). It's why rock stars, rappers, and men who are famous for being sexy and not sexy for being famous have remained untouched. Girls don't regret fvcking them, since they fvcked them because they wanted to and not because they wanted something in exchange.
What practical measures can you take? If you make good money, don't tell girls what you do for a living until after you've been fvcking them for a while. I take it a step further--and usually tell girls I work some super low status job like fast food or a super sexualized job like I'm a male dancer. I talk to girls upfront about other girls I'm seeing or have seen. I work sex into the convo early. I'm a little bit of a jerk (but in a fun playful manner). They know exactly what to expect from me and I give them very little reason to think they can expect to get anything out of me other than that. Also, make sure girls feel good about it afterwards--never make them feel like a slvt, talk about what a fun adventure the night was, let them sleep over if they really want to or have a good excuse for reasons they can't that doesn't involve them personally--work in the morning. If it's a one time deal or you want to break things off, have a good reason you can't continue to see them that doesn't involve them personally. I.e., You start feeling trapped in a relationship--you don't know what it is & she's an awesome girl and needs someone who can really be there for her.
Even then, unless she did something to really violate your boundaries, respond to her texts & give her a little comfort when she reaches out without escalating. You don't need clingers or women who feel scorned--find it within yourself to legitimately want to see her happy & support her in moving on (if you outlined expectations properly, she'll know she needs to & eventually you can maybe even be friends). In person, if you ever see her again, don't be awkward or avoidant--greet her, give her a hug, ask her how she's been, and detach yourself. Being genuine--comfortable with yourself and the situation--is huge. Don't fvck girls you work with (duh!) & save texts. Don't get involved with BPD, narcissistic or histrionic chicks (unless you're really, really good )--educate yourself to learn the signs and avoid those girls. Avoid girls who are super Disney Princess-esque. Avoid girls who are drunk. You'll be fine.
If you're just starting out, stick to sexualized venues (bars & clubs) that provide a built in excuse for social faux pas (maybe you're just drunk) where you don't go all that often (maybe a different side of town). Learn to spot when a girl's uncomfortable--and back the fvck up or smile and wish her a good night. Maybe even use a fake name & a burner phone if you're really paranoid. But don't be paranoid. You'll be fine. Just don't ever assume you're high status enough to masturbate in some potted plants.
BTW the whole #metoo phenomenon has all about eliminated male competition for those of us who know what we're doing It's just us & the super creeps, so get off Tinder & go out this weekend!
I've gotten into it with multiple poster on this site about this very thing. You don't need money/social status/material object to get laid--in fact, it's more often an obstacle than not.Why would anyone in their right mind want to become a top high value male and risk it all to be a DJ playing a dangerous game of Russian roulette?
Why?
Because women have a dualistic mating strategy!!! and they play the game differently with you whether you have higher Lover Potential or Provider Potential--to the extent that most girls have two entirely different personalities depending on what algorithm they put you in. What you're seeing now is a massive backlash against men who represented Provider Potential--whether that be money, or emotional support, or career connection--and tried to switch lanes & sexualize while never following through on that provisioning.
Girls might fvck a Provider--but it's not sex for pleasure, it's sex in exchange for resources. The fact that Harvey Weinstein, Bill Cosby, Matt Lauer & company didn't grasp that distinction proves that they hadn't ever experienced desire sex, confirming their low sexual status, which is why they got crucified & dumped while someone like Trump gets elected president in the face of similar allegations (not that I think Trump is a paragon of sexuality or anyone to model yourself after--but he has enough qualities that women are aroused by). It's why rock stars, rappers, and men who are famous for being sexy and not sexy for being famous have remained untouched. Girls don't regret fvcking them, since they fvcked them because they wanted to and not because they wanted something in exchange.
What practical measures can you take? If you make good money, don't tell girls what you do for a living until after you've been fvcking them for a while. I take it a step further--and usually tell girls I work some super low status job like fast food or a super sexualized job like I'm a male dancer. I talk to girls upfront about other girls I'm seeing or have seen. I work sex into the convo early. I'm a little bit of a jerk (but in a fun playful manner). They know exactly what to expect from me and I give them very little reason to think they can expect to get anything out of me other than that. Also, make sure girls feel good about it afterwards--never make them feel like a slvt, talk about what a fun adventure the night was, let them sleep over if they really want to or have a good excuse for reasons they can't that doesn't involve them personally--work in the morning. If it's a one time deal or you want to break things off, have a good reason you can't continue to see them that doesn't involve them personally. I.e., You start feeling trapped in a relationship--you don't know what it is & she's an awesome girl and needs someone who can really be there for her.
Even then, unless she did something to really violate your boundaries, respond to her texts & give her a little comfort when she reaches out without escalating. You don't need clingers or women who feel scorned--find it within yourself to legitimately want to see her happy & support her in moving on (if you outlined expectations properly, she'll know she needs to & eventually you can maybe even be friends). In person, if you ever see her again, don't be awkward or avoidant--greet her, give her a hug, ask her how she's been, and detach yourself. Being genuine--comfortable with yourself and the situation--is huge. Don't fvck girls you work with (duh!) & save texts. Don't get involved with BPD, narcissistic or histrionic chicks (unless you're really, really good )--educate yourself to learn the signs and avoid those girls. Avoid girls who are super Disney Princess-esque. Avoid girls who are drunk. You'll be fine.
If you're just starting out, stick to sexualized venues (bars & clubs) that provide a built in excuse for social faux pas (maybe you're just drunk) where you don't go all that often (maybe a different side of town). Learn to spot when a girl's uncomfortable--and back the fvck up or smile and wish her a good night. Maybe even use a fake name & a burner phone if you're really paranoid. But don't be paranoid. You'll be fine. Just don't ever assume you're high status enough to masturbate in some potted plants.
BTW the whole #metoo phenomenon has all about eliminated male competition for those of us who know what we're doing It's just us & the super creeps, so get off Tinder & go out this weekend!