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Hey everyone,

Bit of a weird, but genuine question. Not intended as humble brag or a troll post.

For some reason with the girl I've been seeing for over 3 months, I takes ages for me to ***. Anything from 30 mins to a couple of hours.

Bit odd as when I masturbated prior to meeting her it would only take a few mins. She is the first woman I slept with for a couple of years after my divorce. Never had this issue with all the women I slept with prior to this. She is hot and the sex is great, so not an issue there.

Getting a bit annoying now for both of us, she obviously enjoys it to an extent, but not every time. It'd be great to be able to have quickies as well.

I usually have couple of beers, but nothing extreme.

Wondering if there are any techniques, toys, lubes etc that could help with this.

Gets ready for jokes about small ****, baggy vagina etc :D

Cheers!
 

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I've had the same situation, and found two positions to help.

1) Missionary where you support yourself on your elbows and have your forearms under her with your hands wrapped around her shoulders. You gotta pull her into you as you thrust, and thrust like crazy for maybe 30-60 seconds. It is serious cardio - if you are too tired then take a break then continue. It helps to have a visual: either look into her eyes, her chest, or at your d1ck going in.

2) From behind, standing up, where she has a couch to kneel on or lean against. Grab her hips so that - like before - you can pull her in as you thrust. Same thing - takes about a minute and you might need to take a break if the cardio is too much.

If you can go more than a minute without stopping, you're probably not railing on her hard enough. I consider myself in very good shape (no problems with 5-mile runs or rolling 2+ hours in brazilian jiu-jitsu), but I get winded after 30 seconds here. Still, HIIT workouts would train better for this.

Hope this helps. Last tip would be to pull out, whack yourself off to the point where you feel you're closer to cumming, and then go back in. That's also worked for me.

Also, apparently if you watch enough porn it makes real sex less exciting. It wasn't the problem for me, but just mentioning in case it might be for you.
 

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I've had the same situation, and found two positions to help.

1) Missionary where you support yourself on your elbows and have your forearms under her with your hands wrapped around her shoulders. You gotta pull her into you as you thrust, and thrust like crazy for maybe 30-60 seconds. It is serious cardio - if you are too tired then take a break then continue. It helps to have a visual: either look into her eyes, her chest, or at your d1ck going in.

2) From behind, standing up, where she has a couch to kneel on or lean against. Grab her hips so that - like before - you can pull her in as you thrust. Same thing - takes about a minute and you might need to take a break if the cardio is too much.

If you can go more than a minute without stopping, you're probably not railing on her hard enough. I consider myself in very good shape (no problems with 5-mile runs or rolling 2+ hours in brazilian jiu-jitsu), but I get winded after 30 seconds here. Still, HIIT workouts would train better for this.

Hope this helps. Last tip would be to pull out, whack yourself off to the point where you feel you're closer to cumming, and then go back in. That's also worked for me.

Also, apparently if you watch enough porn it makes real sex less exciting. It wasn't the problem for me, but just mentioning in case it might be for you.

cheers mate, a nice constructive response, better than I expected :D

will try them when I see her later. haven;t seen her or masturbated since last seeing her 9 or so days ago, so we shall see.

yeah we've done the hand thing with each and that worked for sure.

i've heard about the desensitization via porn/masturbation, but don;t think its that for me either. I'v never watched it more than a few times a week and barely at all since we met. I don't have extreme tendencies/fantasies with sex.

I did find a thread on somewhere like reddit recently that recommended some lube. but wary of this as things already wet enough already, unless the particular lube somehow provides extra sensation for men.
 

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Perhaps a hole different approach is in order.
 
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Haha I think that could be an option soon.

Not one I'm overly interested in tbh, but what the hell
 

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Hey everyone,

Bit of a weird, but genuine question. Not intended as humble brag or a troll post.

For some reason with the girl I've been seeing for over 3 months, I takes ages for me to ***. Anything from 30 mins to a couple of hours.

Bit odd as when I masturbated prior to meeting her it would only take a few mins. She is the first woman I slept with for a couple of years after my divorce. Never had this issue with all the women I slept with prior to this. She is hot and the sex is great, so not an issue there.

Getting a bit annoying now for both of us, she obviously enjoys it to an extent, but not every time. It'd be great to be able to have quickies as well.

I usually have couple of beers, but nothing extreme.

Wondering if there are any techniques, toys, lubes etc that could help with this.

Gets ready for jokes about small ****, baggy vagina etc :D

Cheers!
Throat f ucking. Done.
 

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If its "too wet" pull your c0ck a couple times and wipe with Terry cloth.
 

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I’ve had this happen before. Goes to show you can have too much of a good thing.
Yep it can be too much.

Getting some of the natural lube off will make more friction and let you bust your nut.
 

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Hey everyone,

Bit of a weird, but genuine question. Not intended as humble brag or a troll post.

For some reason with the girl I've been seeing for over 3 months, I takes ages for me to ***. Anything from 30 mins to a couple of hours.

Bit odd as when I masturbated prior to meeting her it would only take a few mins. She is the first woman I slept with for a couple of years after my divorce. Never had this issue with all the women I slept with prior to this. She is hot and the sex is great, so not an issue there.

Getting a bit annoying now for both of us, she obviously enjoys it to an extent, but not every time. It'd be great to be able to have quickies as well.

I usually have couple of beers, but nothing extreme.

Wondering if there are any techniques, toys, lubes etc that could help with this.

Gets ready for jokes about small ****, baggy vagina etc :D

Cheers!
Think about someone you are really into.
Be glad you have this problem. I really wouldn't worry about it. Mind over matter
 
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I have the same issue many times. There are a lot of times I end up wearing a woman out to the point she is literally exhausted and I still haven't finished.

The only thing that works for me is to get her in a position that causes more friction which is usually doggy but it has to be positioned right...usually I press her butt downward to help create more friction and fvck her hard.
 

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get another woman
 

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I struggle with this too. I believe that being circumcised makes the issue worse but it's difficult to know that for sure since most of us have always only experienced it one way.

For me, the only things I have found to work are to not let things get too wet (don't use any lube, or if you do use it, don't use too much), to never masturbate EVER if you are dating and regularly having sex, and to NEVER watch porn. Oh and if it helps to fantasize about anything that turns you on while you're having sex with her, by all means do it. Could be memories of past sex with her or other women, fantasies about what you'd like to do, or whatever.

I also found that it took me a while to figure out what physical characteristics most turned me on. I have no idea if other guys went through the same experience I did in this regard, but I had to literally date a lot of different looking women before I could actually consciously identify, define, and put to words specific things that turned me on and things that turned me off. For me it was much more detailed than just: is she fat or skinny, hot or not. There were some women who just didn't turn me on that much even if they were objectively attractive. So you might need to be completely honest with yourself about how much this girl truly turns you on.

And some women are just better in bed than others - the way they move, the sounds they make, the things they say, how out of breath and turned on they area, how much they shake and tremble, how crazed the look in their eyes is, how often they orgasm and how quickly it happens, and how much you feel they are acting vs being genuine. It's all very individual. Another thing I have noticed is that while having sex, you can mostly focus on her pleasure, mostly focus on your own pleasure, or try to focus on pleasure together at the same time. Don't get me wrong, it ALL feels GOOD, but not everything will always all allow me to finish. The mutual focus has only allowed me to finish with very few women who were really sexually curious and into stuff like Tantra. So I will tend to focus on her for a while until I've gotten her off once or twice (or more depending on how easy it was) and then shift to focus on myself to finish, without trying to concern myself with whether what I'm doing is providing her the best possible sensation. Sometimes you might get in your head while doing this - thinking she doesn't like it, and that can make it harder for you to finish, and sometimes the cause of you getting into your head is that she isn't doing a good job conveying pleasure to you while you are focusing on yourself. If she's just laying there like a dead fish while you pound away, that may not have a positive affect on you. If that is the case, you can talk with her about it but in doing so you run the risk of then knowing that she's probably just "acting" because you told her to which won't help either. So it just comes back to the fact that some women are better and more sexually compatible with you than others, and some women's bodies just turn you on more than others.

Lastly, your level of attraction to a girl overall, all things considered including personality and how much you value, admire, and respect her, play a huge part too. The best sex I ever had, which I still fantasize about to this day, was with a girl a lot of guys probably would say wasn't that attractive. Her face was decent to me but her body, for me personally, was incredible and she was an elite athlete. Aside from just being really, really good in bed, I allowed myself to become far more enamored with her than I should have been, partially due to her athletic accomplishments and partially due to her aloofness and inability to be "caught." Wasn't a healthy situation for me but man did it ever make the sex incredible. I'm not suggestion you make the same mistake I did - just demonstrating that the more you admire and respect a girl, the better the sex can be.
 

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Hey everyone,

Bit of a weird, but genuine question. Not intended as humble brag or a troll post.

For some reason with the girl I've been seeing for over 3 months, I takes ages for me to ***. Anything from 30 mins to a couple of hours.

Bit odd as when I masturbated prior to meeting her it would only take a few mins. She is the first woman I slept with for a couple of years after my divorce. Never had this issue with all the women I slept with prior to this. She is hot and the sex is great, so not an issue there.

Getting a bit annoying now for both of us, she obviously enjoys it to an extent, but not every time. It'd be great to be able to have quickies as well.

I usually have couple of beers, but nothing extreme.

Wondering if there are any techniques, toys, lubes etc that could help with this.

Gets ready for jokes about small ****, baggy vagina etc :D

Cheers!

I've found this happens if I'm not in the moment during sex (I have adhd so this has been a problem in the past). Can also happen if you're really into a woman: sometimes dudes get performance anxiety where they can't get it up, and that manifests again once they can get it up when they can't ***. Has happened to me in the past.

I struggle to *** with condoms too sometimes. Try meditating a bit more and masturbating a bit less. If don't masturbate for a week and then I have sex I'm always gonna bust.
 

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I have the same issue many times. There are a lot of times I end up wearing a woman out to the point she is literally exhausted and I still haven't finished.

The only thing that works for me is to get her in a position that causes more friction which is usually doggy but it has to be positioned right...usually I press her butt downward to help create more friction and fvck her hard.
Always anal and her mouth. Something always turns me on when they take my penis in there mouth after being in one (or both) of their other orifices. It's basically total submission to you.
 

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This is gonna sound super beta blue pill, but being very in love with a woman helps, and helps the little guy back up when done.

Try jerking it less, and watching less porn. If I know I'm going to be meeting up with a chick on the weekend and possibly taking her home, I don't fap that entire week.

Eat a lot of ginger. Spikes T and is actually somewhat of an aphrodisiac. It's also just good for you in a lot of other ways, and it's cheap.

Horny goat weed supplements also help, look it up.

Definitely don't drink beer before having sex. Hops is highly estrogenic and it will tank you T levels. Back in the 16th century there was a documented phenomenon known as "brewer's droop." Beer brewers spending a lot of time handling and consuming hops resulted in -- droop. Red wine or liquor, and not too much, is the preferred drink on dates.

Good luck.
 

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This is gonna sound super beta blue pill, but being very in love with a woman helps, and helps the little guy back up when done.

Try jerking it less, and watching less porn. If I know I'm going to be meeting up with a chick on the weekend and possibly taking her home, I don't fap that entire week.

Eat a lot of ginger. Spikes T and is actually somewhat of an aphrodisiac. It's also just good for you in a lot of other ways, and it's cheap.

Horny goat weed supplements also help, look it up.

Definitely don't drink beer before having sex. Hops is highly estrogenic and it will tank you T levels. Back in the 16th century there was a documented phenomenon known as "brewer's droop." Beer brewers spending a lot of time handling and consuming hops resulted in -- droop. Red wine or liquor, and not too much, is the preferred drink on dates.

Good luck.
On the ginger I've heard it was reveared in jail for being a test booster. A teaspoon before your workout will raise your aggression. Like you get mad and focused.
 
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I can think of times when either a condom wasn't sensitive enough or the gal was just too boring in bed. This may not be the end all advice, but a real time saver has been to give them a "pearl necklace."
 

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Cheers fellas.

She is hot and good bed,so not an issue with being turned on or into her. Don't use condoms either.

During and Prior to 12 year relationship, didn't have this issue, even with women I didn't find attractive.

I've found laying behind makes it easier to finish off and she mentioned this too.

At the weekend I found standing behind her, grabbing her arse cheeks together seemed to help too, so we re getting somewhere.

Cheers.
 
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