"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Met this girl at a club but how long till I contact?

trent81

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Met her at a club tonight. Her cok blocking friends made her leave. She wanted to stay. I'm sure I could have went home if not made out with her if she stayed. As she was leaving I asked her number, she gave it to me. In fact, she repeated her name to me as if I may have forgotten it. This showed me interest somewhat. How long before I call? Call or text? Where to take? What to say?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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hover411

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90% chance this will lead to nothing, just based on the club environment.

personally, i feel the standard two/three day hold is bad in these situations. you want to get a hold of them while you are still fresh in their head. try to be cheery and positive and give good vibes through the phone.

if it flows well, try and set up a date ASAP. time is against you in these situations.
 

women haze

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Very true...the club is not the place to pick up girls.
 

Ganondorf

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I agree with Nancy. Who cares really. don't over think this.

first of all, you met her in the club, so you should not wait too long lest you want to be forgotten

also, why over think this at all? if it doesn't work then go to another chick plan and simple
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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